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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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thanks @Snowie

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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Thanks @jem80
i dont know. its just everything. im sorry im struggling to even ask here/

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Eve7Senior Contributor

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Hugs @outlander

💜🤗💜

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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I have been trying to ask for help carers aust but i cant seem to ring them. my anxiety is really bad and cant even dial the number now. every time i just get my anxiety back to a manageable amount i think i could try again but then i panic all over again. im to scared to even speak to anyone in the family and with no friends i offline i dont know what to do. its really hard for me. i dont really know how to take these steps forward when it feels like i have to get permission or something. i dont understand why im so afraid

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jem80Senior Contributor

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@outlander

I feel for you. It can be very daunting not knowing how a family member will react to you.

However you have done so well on the forums to express what is challenging you. It can be hard to take the next step.

From what you have expressed here on the forum it sounds as if your family would actually understand if you need to take action. Your family need to know how crippling it is for you.

Perhaps you would like someone to mediate for you, perhaps a mental health professional to help ease your way in to the conversation and discuss what the challenges are and how they can be overcome and to step forward not only for you but for your family as well. To create a better health and wellbeing for all, including you.

Would it help for you to type/write it down on a piece of paper what your thoughts, feelings and challenges are with what you are dealing with and ask someone in your family to read it so that way if you find it difficult or challenging to speak up, someone can read your wishes?

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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@outlander

Perhaps writing down what you need to say might help sweetie. Just take it one step at a time.

It is hard when our anxiety gets overwhelming.

Is there something you can do for yourself tonight?

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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thanks @jem80 my family is not supportive at all when it comes to mental health. the last time they found out i was going to a psych i got so many lectures etc so i wont involve professionals with this. itd jsut be nice if they could accept im not some sort of robot.

thanks @Snowie yes maybe i can write, i dont really know.
ive been trying to control nerve (as in the actual nerve damage) for the last hour as its really bad-reminds me of how much i want to see a neurosurgeon for an opinion. i dont think all the panic attacks today have helped anything. if its not one thing its another.

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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You have so much going on @outlander at the moment and it probably feels very overwhelming for you. No the panic attacks would have not helped today.

Can you do something nice for yourself tonight?

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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im planning on having a nice hot shower after dinner and maybe watching a movie in bed. @Snowie

how are you going?

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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That sounds nice @outlander

Hopefully that helps just a little bit.

I am still struggling with the whole psych thing. Lots of thoughts and feelings happening. Trying to numb them with probably not great ways. Need to take my own advice 😢

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