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Something’s not right

not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor26 Jan 2021, 2:28 pm AEDT

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Thanks everyone

Im not going that well atm but im struggling to ask for help or feel ok accepting help. i dont really know why. i dont really even know whats wrong. There just doesnt seem to be any words. i guess i just dont really know

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SnowieSenior Contributor26 Jan 2021, 2:32 pm AEDT

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Can understnad the struggling to accept help @outlander or ask for it.

Am sitting with you sis

💜💜

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outlanderSenior Contributor26 Jan 2021, 3:05 pm AEDT

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thanks sis @Snowie

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SnowieSenior Contributor26 Jan 2021, 3:12 pm AEDT

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@outlander 💜💜

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outlanderSenior Contributor26 Jan 2021, 6:28 pm AEDT

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@Sans911@Snowie@Eve7@Anastasia@Faith-and-Hope@Zoe7 @Emelia8

would you guys be around? i hate to ask but i could use some advice or something i dont really know

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Zoe7Senior Contributor26 Jan 2021, 6:34 pm AEDT

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I'm kind of around @outlander but ask away...

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outlanderSenior Contributor26 Jan 2021, 6:59 pm AEDT

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What do you do when you dont even know whats wrong? i dont really know how else to cope or how else to help myself

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Zoe7Senior Contributor26 Jan 2021, 7:13 pm AEDT

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It is probably time you get some professional help @outlander I know you have been very reluctant to do that in the past but you cannot go on like this. You are overwhelmed with all the responsibilities you carry - whether that be self imposed or presumed by others and something has to give. So many of your health issues can be exacerbated by stress - of which you have your fair share of and that is not at all helping with your emotional wellbeing. Giving up the things you need often to be put out for others does not help either. You are the only one that can make You a priority and it seems to be time to make some really big and difficult decisions. I know we have been here before but the only way you are actually going to find yourself is to relieve some of those responsibilities you carry. You are drowning in your life because all that you are expected to do is totally overwhelming - anyone would be feeling completely lost in your present position. I also know that fear of what you would do, who you actually are and what life would be like without all these responsibilities overwhelms you too but having that space to find out is certainly better than the crushing, soul destroying and unrealistic expectations both you and others place on you at present.

Life does not have to be this way for you Hon but it really is only you that can change that ...and in my opinion you need help to do that.

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outlanderSenior Contributor26 Jan 2021, 7:27 pm AEDT

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ive been trying to make some changes @Zoe7

i wish pop would qualify for more care but he doesnt and no one else seems to offer to help even when ive asked for it. always seems to have to be on there terms.
ill be able to find out some more options when i see his specialist in about 2 weeks so hanging onto hope for that.

ive dropped down on the horses as well (the girls help with theirs mostly as well) i use to take on as many as 12 but now its mine plus max of 3/4 at a time unless its urgent matter

ive put the boundaries in that i dont watch the kids on a weekend, no overnighters and ive handed my sister abit of responsibility in watching the younger one in the day for a few hours before i come over

ive been talking to a counsellor online not for the past few weeks but before it was weekly/fortnightly and i was trying to talk to them yesterday but wasnt very good at it at all. wasted their time tbh.

i was going to go back to the psychiatrist but i dont want meds anymore to many side effects to contend with and i found out the psychiatrist basically called me a waste of time unless i was going on meds.

i see my nurse monthly too, dont really have a gp atm but trying to find one.

ive sorted out all the payment plans for bills so they are automatic and theres no debt collectors involved for pop anymore.

i even tried riding again and i couldnt get into it. the only things thats taking my mind of things is going back through my other studies and rewriting notes.

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SnowieSenior Contributor26 Jan 2021, 7:39 pm AEDT

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@outlander

You have put so many things in to place already and I am glad that you are reaching out for support.

I haven't really got any advice but am here with you and for you sis 💜💜

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