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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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Zoe7Senior Contributor20 Dec 2020, 10:27 pm AEDT

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That is where a pathways counsellor can really help @outlander There may be directions you can go that you have never thought of and would fit really well with both what you like to study and your interests. I can fully understand you not wanting to go into a caring role but nursing I feel would really suit you. I have red many discussions you have had with @Sans911 in that area ...and know you love your Emergency type shows - so it could be a good fit.

Your Pop does seem to becoming more aggressive lately Hon - please protect yourself as best you can. Walk out if you need to. No matter what his condition you don't have to put yourself in a vulnerable position where your safety is in jeopardy.

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outlanderSenior Contributor20 Dec 2020, 10:36 pm AEDT

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Ill look into it in the new year @Zoe7 i habe to survive till the new yr till then. Caring and nursing are different so im ok with looking at nursing options. I just dont want aged care or disability homecare type sectors anymore.

I will, i usually walk out when hes in a mood now. Theres no reasoning anymore and seems everything i say or do when he is in a mood provokes him.

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outlanderSenior Contributor20 Dec 2020, 10:37 pm AEDT

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Im lucky to have had some convos with @Sans911 too, that's probably why i havent given up the idea of nursing yet and know some of the options too

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Zoe7Senior Contributor20 Dec 2020, 10:41 pm AEDT

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Yes they are different @outlander Check out what you would need for nursing and I am sure @Sans911 and @Former-Member could help you out there too.

Glad to hear you walk away Hon - it is no doubt difficult to do that but your safety (both physically and mentally) in those situations is the priority

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outlanderSenior Contributor20 Dec 2020, 10:45 pm AEDT

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Thanks @Zoe7 💙

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Zoe7Senior Contributor20 Dec 2020, 10:47 pm AEDT

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How are you feeling now @outlander ?

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outlanderSenior Contributor20 Dec 2020, 11:10 pm AEDT

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Just going to get through tonight as best as i can @Zoe7 going to go in for a shower and lay down in bed at least

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Zoe7Senior Contributor20 Dec 2020, 11:11 pm AEDT

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Look after you @outlander I will check on you tomorrow

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Sans911Senior Contributor20 Dec 2020, 11:22 pm AEDT

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I'm still here lil Sis @outlander. Just watching your conversation with @Zoe7. And as you know I often agree with what she's saying or suggesting.

We have known you now for quite a while,and I had so hoped life would get better for you not worse. I think over the next few months you may have to start condsidering what is best for you in terns of your health and safety as well as your pop with his needs and care. Those aren't easy decisions at all to make, but they are usually done with the best intentions for everyone. And it's better to make those decisions earlier and be ready rather than have to rush them and be super stressed.

There is so much potential for you yet my sweet. You have so much empathy, compassion and kindness plus you are intelligent, have initiative and determination. Nursing isn't just working in hospitals, or even nursing homes. There are many, many avenues to take.

I think too once you have some independence and control over your own life, your health situation will stabilise and might even be well controlled with good management. You may only get the occasional flare up.

I'm here for you lil Sis @outlander whatever and wherever your life takes you. All any of us want is to see you thrive.

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Emelia8Senior Contributor20 Dec 2020, 11:36 pm AEDT

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Good night @Sans911 @outlander 💞💤😊

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