Connect with people who understand what you are going through, seek advice and surround yourself with support. We're free, anonymous, and professionally moderated 24/7.

47,612Members
1,358,869Posts
1,400,000Visitors

not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

18135 replies

5,931 - 5,940 of 18,135

1...593 594 595...1,814

In response to: not coping

SnowieSenior Contributor07 Sept 2020, 9:36 pm AEST

Re: not coping

It is hard to find a good gp and a female hun, especially when you live in a smaller town. There are not many options around. I find it hard to also find one that understands MH.

If you need surgery or further tests you might have to tell your mum @outlander I know that might not be ideal but you might need that extra support. In saying that I hope she would give you that extra support you would need. You shouldn't have to go through this alone sweetheart.

In response to: Re: not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor07 Sept 2020, 9:43 pm AEST

Re: not coping

the thing is im not really in a small town, theres lots of places but the gps here arent very good. or the ones that are good are arent on medicare or their books are full esp with covid now. its really hard. there is a gp clinic that are focussed on womens health but its abit of a travel and atm they make you wear masks. while im ok with that if im panicing or anything then i mentally cant wear one i feel like im suffocating or something so while it might be good to go there im kinda hoping to maybe hold off abit longer maybe then the mask rule might be more optional rather then compulsory.

i know ill have to tell her at some point but i dont really want to yet. all my life ive had all these expectations put on me, i almost feel like its my duty to provide grandkids too. i know thats not the case but i think its my mind set atm.

In response to: Re: not coping

SnowieSenior Contributor07 Sept 2020, 9:59 pm AEST

Re: not coping

Your own personal health is more important than grandchildren hun, but I can understand that expectation, even if its only your mindset.

The gp clinic specialising in womens health might be an option depending on what the gyno says in your next appointment @outlander Wearing a mask and panicking at the same time can be hard hun.

Have you got a good trusted friend you could take with you to your appointments to help you if you do become panicked.

I know I haven't but am hoping you do hun.

Just to let you know I have taken my meds so if I drop out you know why.

In response to: Re: not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor07 Sept 2020, 10:13 pm AEST

Re: not coping

i dont really @Snowie these appts have been alot more personal and private. i hired a carer to come to the last one to wait in the waiting room, theres a chance i could probably do that again. i have just over a week till the appt its just been more on my mind the past day or 2.

i think ill be heading to bed in a minute too just waiting on this episode to finish up and then ill go lay down. i have abit more of a busy day tomorrow

In response to: Re: not coping

SnowieSenior Contributor07 Sept 2020, 10:21 pm AEST

Re: not coping

A carer sounds like it could be a good idea hun, especially if you feel comfortable with them.

If u could pick and choose which carer then that would be even better.

I imagine it will be in your mind more and more over the coming week @outlander so am happy to talk to you or to just listen to what you need to say.

I hope your day goes well tomorrow. If I can have a shower tomorrow then that will be a major win for me.

I hope you get some sleep sweetheart

All my love,and hugs sis 💙💜♥️

In response to: Re: not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor07 Sept 2020, 10:23 pm AEST

Re: not coping

i can request that carer thankfully @Snowie shes more personal so not through a company. its a place like mable so i only have to send a msg to ask if shes avaliable on the date/time i need.

thank you for the chat, it was good to get some out. im going to take some pain releief and go lay down. hopefully can get some sleep tonight
💜💜💜

In response to: Re: not coping

AnastasiaSenior Contributor07 Sept 2020, 10:24 pm AEST

Re: not coping

I'm sorry @outlander i fell asleep.

@Snowie has given good advice. It's a lot that you have to carry on your mind hunny. I don't really have an advice but just wanted to let you know I'm here xxx

In response to: Re: not coping

AnastasiaSenior Contributor07 Sept 2020, 10:27 pm AEST