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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor29 Aug 2020, 5:26 pm AEST

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thanks @Snowie its hard. i was struggling before and this has just made it much worse but the more anxious or upset or the stronger the urges get the worse i feel headache/stomach wise. my body is really not cooperating well atm.

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SnowieSenior Contributor29 Aug 2020, 5:34 pm AEST

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It must be hard for you hun @outlander I know how strong those urges can get and how they can take over. Would a bath/shower help at all?

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outlanderSenior Contributor29 Aug 2020, 5:45 pm AEST

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i might have one soon @Snowie i have to try and work out pops dinner at least.

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outlanderSenior Contributor29 Aug 2020, 5:47 pm AEST

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I have to go do the dishes yet again @Snowie because pop wont do it. Told me 3 times he would do it and when i remind him he just snap at me and says he never said that

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SnowieSenior Contributor29 Aug 2020, 5:49 pm AEST

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Can he have something easy tonight @outlander

Will be sitting with you sweetheart, I know how demanding your pop can be and how much he expects of you.

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NatureLoverSenior Contributor29 Aug 2020, 5:54 pm AEST

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So sorry your pain's been so bad and your SI and SH thoughts so bad too 😞

I had a thought, would listening to an e-book be good? Or would that be too mentally stimulating?

@outlander

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Eve7Senior Contributor29 Aug 2020, 6:24 pm AEST

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Hi @outlander I am sitting here with you. I’m sorry about the urges plaguing you now. I am sending another big hug 🤗 and hoping the pain, dishes and Pop just disappear for the evening.

How about some quiet music? I can play the piano for you.

Lots of love and understanding.

💜💙💜

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outlanderSenior Contributor29 Aug 2020, 6:59 pm AEST

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thanks @Snowie i ended up just cooking some chicken and vegies. he and i can have that so just put mine aside for now and he liked it thankfully.

@NatureLover
i dont have an e-reader but thank you. i cant really have headphone on for more then a few minutes or music playing much. like to much talking just gets to overwhelming anyway but that you for the suggestion

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outlanderSenior Contributor29 Aug 2020, 7:02 pm AEST

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thanks @Eve7 im struggling to even listen to music atm. my pop is a clock collector (so far im aware theres around 20 clocks ) and has ones that chime and tick loudly even a cuckoo clock! ive gone around and turned some of the chimes off but i dont think itll be long before he notices and turns them back on. its not so great when your in bed and its 2 oclock and all you can hear is all the different 'ticks' going off 🤦‍♀️
i cant get my pain under control. ive had 2 doses of the regular otc stuff ( as prescibed on box ) and the stronger pills the dr prescibed and its not curbing it at all atm.

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NatureLoverSenior Contributor29 Aug 2020, 7:07 pm AEST

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@outlander wrote:
i cant get my pain under control. ive had 2 doses of the regular otc stuff ( as prescibed on box ) and the stronger pills the dr prescibed and its not curbing it at all atm.

Oh gosh, @outlander , I'm concerned...what can you do? Would you have to go to Emergency?

And gosh, those clocks wouldn't help you sleep, or your headaches 😥

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