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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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Lee82Senior Contributor01 Aug 2020, 4:41 pm AEST

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Hey @outlander was thinking about you today. How did your dentist appointment go?

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outlanderSenior Contributor01 Aug 2020, 5:49 pm AEST

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@Maggie

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outlanderSenior Contributor01 Aug 2020, 5:52 pm AEST

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@Lee82 i got home about 1130 but wasnt asleep till after 1230 then up at 6 and have been going non stop till now. have really only just got home, have a cracking headache so took some pain relief.
dentist can see how may ulcers and scarring i have from where my jaw is misaligned so my bite is forever hitting places it shouldnt. i need a filling at some point, have a cleaning in just over a week and xrays to double check things. and has suggested braces as that might also help some of the pain ive been in. This is also the third dentist who has told me that nerve damage is a rare occurance but unfortantly i have it and its not treatable. so its just about maanaging symptoms with checkups, cleans and mainting the gums and other teeth as normal.

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outlanderSenior Contributor01 Aug 2020, 5:58 pm AEST

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@NatureLover @Maggie 👋

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NatureLoverSenior Contributor01 Aug 2020, 6:00 pm AEST

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Just popped over to see how your busy day went @outlander , you've been going all day 😮

Oh gosh, braces! More expense, but it would be great if they help the pain levels.

Can you rest this evening and rest your headache?

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outlanderSenior Contributor01 Aug 2020, 6:05 pm AEST

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all day is right @NatureLover tomorrow is now looking busy as well but hopefully once everything done in the morning ill be ok to do nothing the rest of the day.

yeah i had already expected him to say braces as my surgeon had mentioned the same thing but was more monitoring the nerve damage at the time. havent seen them for around 4 (possibly longer)months now because of covid.

my headache should go away now that ive taken some pain relief and rehydrated abit. i am tired though

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MaggieSenior Contributor01 Aug 2020, 6:08 pm AEST

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@outlander Having ulcers in your mouth constantly must be extremely painful. I hope braces help. It’s just so awful this has happened.

Probably a silly question, but have you reported the surgeon ? I know they say there is always a risk factor, but.....someone is responsible. Sorry if you’ve talked this through already. And no need to answer either. 💕💕💕

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outlanderSenior Contributor01 Aug 2020, 6:13 pm AEST

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ive often just got jaw pain in general @Maggie all of my teeth just generally hurt (more so the bad side) the other teeth he said might hurt because its always the side i chew on now.

i wont be getting braces at least not for a while. i have hospital fees to pay for, and trying to just get one thing sorted at a time i think. some of my health insurance will cover the cost of the braces if i wait another 6 months (have a 12 month waiting period for anything orthodonctic etc)
i havent reported them, im not really that sort of person tbh. i dont think much will be done anyway since 2 other dentist say they cant do anything now anyway. the damage is done and i just have to try and maintain things.

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MaggieSenior Contributor01 Aug 2020, 6:18 pm AEST

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I understand @outlander. 💙💙 Life is so very tough for you. Sending 💙💙💙 I just don’t have words sometimes.

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outlanderSenior Contributor01 Aug 2020, 6:19 pm AEST

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its ok @Maggie thank you

hows your day been?

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