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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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NatureLoverSenior Contributor22 July 2020, 9:06 am AEST

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Good morning @outlander and @Sans911 ... I hope your days today are good, or at least OK, and better then they have been lately.

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Lee82Senior Contributor22 July 2020, 9:47 am AEST

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Good morning @outlander hope today is a better day for you babe.

good morning @Sans911 hope your feeling a little better today.

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outlanderSenior Contributor22 July 2020, 7:19 pm AEST

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@Sans911 @NatureLover @Lee82 @Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope @Eve7 @Snowie @Shaz51 ❤💛💚💜💙

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Lee82Senior Contributor22 July 2020, 7:41 pm AEST

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How you holding up @outlander

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outlanderSenior Contributor22 July 2020, 9:00 pm AEST

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Not great @Lee82 not feeling to well. Just want to go home ans im stuck here till 1230

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Lee82Senior Contributor22 July 2020, 9:02 pm AEST

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I am so sorry hun. @outlander Anything I can do?

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outlanderSenior Contributor22 July 2020, 9:14 pm AEST

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No its ok @Lee82 theres not really anything anyone can do atm. Just have to wait for both specilists appts to come up to see what the next steps are for the 2 conditions i have that arent so great right now.
Struggling to keep up with workloads responsibilities etc atm. Just really worn out i think. One sister wants to ride tomorrow so ill watch and then mums trying to be a parent and stealing my horse (thats apparently not mine) so my other sister can ride her. Prib wont go a second time.

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Lee82Senior Contributor22 July 2020, 9:21 pm AEST

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@outlander You really need to tell your mum that you need some help with everything you have going on for you right now. It is so not fair that this is all put onto your shoulders to bare whilst you are struggling with your own health. Wish I lived near you so I could come over and help you out hun.

also I know what's happened with your special horse...I'm sorry I can't remember her name. I totally agree with what everyone has been saying. She will know who she really belongs to even though your sister will be riding her you will be the one looking after her and you mentioned that you have a special bond with her already. Horses don't forget. 🐎💗

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outlanderSenior Contributor22 July 2020, 9:28 pm AEST

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I know what the response will be @Lee82 its my own fault because its also my work with clients horses too. Every arvo plus kids etc. I cant take anymore time off cause the extra coming feom the horse work is paying off my hospital bill. Pop gets as much support as whats allowed right now -what hes allocated for-not they they help much anyway since they come when i have the kids anyway.
Cant ask mum to have time off. She doesnt get sick leave etc so has tp work to be paid.

Sorry Lee i know talking about the stuff happening in home life is tricky for everyone here as well. Just taken pain relief and put the tv on. Hopefully will pass some time more quicker

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Lee82Senior Contributor22 July 2020, 9:38 pm AEST

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Yea I get that home life can be very very tricky and tough. At times it can get very overwhelming.
I really hope the pain relief helps you a little @outlander . Are the kids in bed now? Can you make yourself a cuppa? I have just poured myself a cup.

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