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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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Sans911Senior Contributor15 July 2020, 10:11 pm AEST

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Sorry lil Sis @outlander but I fell asleep. I worked at the op shop this morning instead of the afternoon. Not used to getting up early for work. Then I came home and scrubbed my bathroom and laundry floors. My cleaner couldn't come this week as she was sick.

I went to have a rest on the bed with Mr A. And I couldn't stay awake.

I'll be here for a while now, so I'll come sit with you, @Snowie and @Eve7.

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

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outlanderSenior Contributor15 July 2020, 10:16 pm AEST

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That's ok @Sans911 you mustve needed that sleep

Thank you i would love if you sat with us too 💜💜
Trying to keep occupied so i dont sh again.

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Eve7Senior Contributor15 July 2020, 10:28 pm AEST

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Good to see you @Sans911 as I am off to bed now

Yake care my lovely

💙🧡💙

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outlanderSenior Contributor15 July 2020, 10:33 pm AEST

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Goodnight @Eve7 💛

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Sans911Senior Contributor15 July 2020, 10:34 pm AEST

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Please try to reach out to us here first @outlander if you feel the need to sh. We can do distraction games or something else to help with those urges.

You are feeling all sorts of mixed emotions right now which I know aren't sitting comfortably with you.

Acknowledge those emotions but also acknowledge that those emotions aren't the truth. You aren't a bad person, sister, carer. It's right to want something of your own, and to have others acknowledge your presence and validate you. You get none of those things from the people that are supposed to be there for you.

They are the flawed ones my angel. Your heart is pure light and love. You are an amazing, caring, kind and decent person. You are so loved by me and so many others. That will never fade, and I will always be here for my little sister. I love you to the moon and back.

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Sans911Senior Contributor15 July 2020, 10:35 pm AEST

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Goodnight sweetheart @Eve7 😴😴😴💝💝💝

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outlanderSenior Contributor15 July 2020, 10:46 pm AEST

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I tried @Sans911 but i could feel it all getting to much. It was starting to give me palpatations. I tried b doing the dishes and cleaning the kitchen and then was retriggered so had shower when i really shouldve stayed away from there. 😞 im sorry i know i said i would reach out and i did but i didnt know what else to do when it come up so quickly the second time. I know we are suppose to reach out offline when we're distressed.

I love you heaps too. I am so lucky to have you along with @Snowie as big sisters

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Sans911Senior Contributor15 July 2020, 10:58 pm AEST

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You don't to apologise to me Lil Sis @outlander. You need to forgive yourself and no be so hard on yourself for feeling the way you do.

I know you struggle too with reaching out off-line so just stay here with me if you get those felling or urges again. We can handle it together OK? Love and hugs 😽 from me and Mr A

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outlanderSenior Contributor15 July 2020, 11:11 pm AEST

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I struggle with reaching out here too lately @Sans911 (its nothing anyones done) i just feel so disconnected from everyone both here and offline too. I dont really know why probably because of just everything happening atm. I feel disconnected and numb but like a tornado within myself too

II think its going to be a long night

Aww give Mr A scratches for me too.

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Sans911Senior Contributor15 July 2020, 11:14 pm AEST

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It's OK @outlander. Just do whatever you can do. That is enough. As are you enough. 💕💕💕

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