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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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SnowieSenior Contributor12 July 2020, 12:37 pm AEST

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I'm sorry you are feeling this way hun @outlander

Did you need to talk it through at ll? Only if you want to

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outlanderSenior Contributor12 July 2020, 12:52 pm AEST

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remember how a while i ago i mentioned my heart horse? the one that i trained for 8 yrs and then had ripped out from under me?
yesterday she was for sale, i said that i would buy her back. its turned around into shes now my sisters horse because she needs one to ride and learn on etc. everything is 'ours, us, we' i can never really have something to myself.
i made an offer on her and theyve accepted so i can pick her up on sunday. in a way i was hoping they would say no. its sad really, that horse took a huge piece of me when they ripped her from under me and could never see her again but she wont ever be mine again. its just hard to accept i guess. im trying not to be selfish and my sister can ride her in the round yard but i can already see how quickly its gone from me trying to get my horse back to shes now my sisters to ride and learn on and do whatever with her. @Snowie @Shaz51 @Sans911 @NatureLover @Eve7

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NatureLoverSenior Contributor12 July 2020, 12:56 pm AEST

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That is totally not selfish of you, and not fair to you in any way @outlander 😞

I can't actually believe it - you are paying for the horse you love, so your sister can have her? And your family are driving this?

I am outraged for you!

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outlanderSenior Contributor12 July 2020, 12:59 pm AEST

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pretty much @NatureLover i know i wont ride her much and she is a little small for me. i guess maybe im just being selfish. alot of people think that anyway, guess i can just see it myself now.

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SnowieSenior Contributor12 July 2020, 1:00 pm AEST

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Not sefish at all hun. f you pay for it then it is your horse. If your sister wants the horse then she can pay for it. I bet you ill be the one to look after it, feed and water it.

@outlander

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Shaz51Senior Contributor12 July 2020, 1:01 pm AEST

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sending you understanding hugs my sister @outlander

is this to your youngest sister ??

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outlanderSenior Contributor12 July 2020, 1:03 pm AEST

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she cant pay for it when shes only 9 @Snowie i want her to have a good horse and everything and i will love having her around even though its abit of extra work and money but i dont know.

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outlanderSenior Contributor12 July 2020, 1:03 pm AEST

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yeah @Shaz51

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outlanderSenior Contributor12 July 2020, 1:06 pm AEST

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i dont even get to take credit for her training. my mother and everyone else around me dont allow that it always has to be our or us. it sounds silly but honestly the only thing my mother use to do is drive us around. she had no part in her training. i guess im both happy and just filled with deep sadness too

@Shaz51 @Snowie @NatureLover

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SnowieSenior Contributor12 July 2020, 1:08 pm AEST

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Then let your mother pay for it then @outlander It is for her daughter not yours.

I know you want the best for her hun and that your generosity knows no boundries, but if you have invested so much into this horse then I don't blame you for wanting something for yourself.

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