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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor07 July 2020, 11:24 pm AEST

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I am so glad that your support worker will take you and bring you home @Sans911 that was going to be my next question since i know you usually arrnage things yourself so im grateful the sw will be there. I know you are a superwoman but you dont have to be all the time.

I hope if they find anything its nothing to serious.
Is the anaemia part of the low iron your often battling with?

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Sans911Senior Contributor07 July 2020, 11:39 pm AEST

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Yes, I can take my cape off on Thursday lol! If I am a superwoman, then you are a wonder woman @outlander!!! I honestly don't think I could manage all that you do and put up with.

Yes, the anaemia is low iron. I have have a problem more with low ferritin, which is where iron is stored in reserve before being used. My body can't seem to keep this topped up, so then my haemoglobin gets lower. My mother and sister have similar issues. It doesn't happen all the time, just every few years or so. I can't take iron tablets, as they affect my gut and make me feel sick.

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outlanderSenior Contributor07 July 2020, 11:46 pm AEST

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Lol @Sans911 leave that cape at home and let others look after you for once. I would come if i could ❤

Mm hopefully they find an answer soon then for you and family who have the same thing as well. Does it make it hard to live with on a regular basis or just when things are lower then normal?

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outlanderSenior Contributor07 July 2020, 11:51 pm AEST

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Am i distracting you from your work?

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Sans911Senior Contributor08 July 2020, 12:12 am AEST

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No, not distracting me from my work, as I am actually now on a bit of a roll @outlander .

I am not usually bothered by the low iron or ferritin until I start to notice symptoms. These are usually increasing tiredness, a bit short of breath and sometimes a bit of dizziness. Really obvious symptoms hey?! NOT!! Some women get paler but I am already quite fair skinned. After my surgery my iron levels were ok. But I wasn't taking the best care of myself, my depression was still affecting my appetite and motivation, so I just put my fatigue down to my surgical recovery. It was only when it was getting worse and I was struggling to get out of bed (again I thought it was my depresson), I was sleeping during the day, I had no stamina and struggled with basic tasks that I asked my GP to check my levels. Even she wasn't sure at first whether I was fatigued from the surgery, my depression or my iron! She encourageed me to eat better, sleep better, and see if that helped. Which it didn't. So that's when I had a iron transfusion at the drs surgery. My bloods today were to see where the levels are at, and I see my GP on Friday. It took me a lot longer then usual after my transfusion to get on top of the fatigue. I still have a bit of it now, but it is much better then a few months ago.

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outlanderSenior Contributor08 July 2020, 12:24 am AEST

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Oh i see @Sans911 thanks for explaining. Im glad its not as bad as a few months ago. Some answers for you might be nice as well though.

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Sans911Senior Contributor08 July 2020, 12:37 am AEST

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I am not looking forward to this procedure on Thursday at all @outlander . They only give you light sedation, and I have no anti anxiety prn medication prior to going. Actually, that's just given me a thought- I might ring my case manager tommorow to see if she can get something arranged for me from my pdoc. The community mh team are across the road from the hospital.

Tommorow I can't have any solids at all (except plain yoghurt). So it's all fluids only. I have a few hours at the op shop so I will take a lemonade with me to keep myself going. I am allowed a coffee with milk first thing in the morning, but only black coffee or tea after that, which I absolutely hate! So I will probably have a caffiene detox headache Thursday morning.

I just want to get through the procedure, get picked up, get a proper coffee on the way home, and go to bed.

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outlanderSenior Contributor08 July 2020, 12:48 am AEST

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Hopefully you can get a prn @Sans911 and that it goes quite quickly. Im not surprised your not lookig forward to it! I wouldnt be either.
Black tea /coffee :nauseated_face: yuck. A good coffee afterwards is a must!
What time do you have to be there on thursday?

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Sans911Senior Contributor08 July 2020, 12:56 am AEST

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Oh I am so glad that you agree black tea or coffee is blegh!! @outlander

I don't have to be there until 12:30 which for me is quite respectable lol. it isn't very far from my home at all but my support worker will pick me up at 12. Apparently I should be able to leave between 3-4pm. They will call her to collect me.

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outlanderSenior Contributor08 July 2020, 1:00 am AEST

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I would take plain water over black tea or coffee anyday @Sans911 yucky!

Oh thats alright. 1230 is better then super early.

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