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Something’s not right

not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor04 July 2020, 1:01 pm AEST

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i dont know @NatureLover everyones already angry at me for not wanting to do things but then when i go im not even spoken to i just sit there so it doesnt really seem like ill be winning either way.

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NatureLoverSenior Contributor04 July 2020, 1:09 pm AEST

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Gosh, it really seems the people in your life are not understanding at all, @outlander .

You really are struggling and suffering at the moment, so I would be definitely getting out of that dinner event if it was me, especially if people aren't even going to appreciate your efforts in going and speak to you at it!

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outlanderSenior Contributor04 July 2020, 1:41 pm AEST

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No they arent understanding @NatureLover
I tried to say somwthing but my mothers in a mood cause she cant get the cake shes making to work. I could go and say hi ans give them their card and maybe come home after that

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NatureLoverSenior Contributor04 July 2020, 1:44 pm AEST

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Well done for at least trying to say something to your mother.

If you think you can get away with just going to give the card... @outlander

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outlanderSenior Contributor04 July 2020, 1:49 pm AEST

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If i eat anything its going to cause severe pain and make me sick esp with whats on the menu. Its all very good and homecooked things @NatureLover its getting really really hard for me. Cant have barely anything anymore so i dont know how im suppose to explain that or if i get pain its hard to hide. My stomachs already been bad all day and all last night so im trying to avoid any extra flareups.

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Lee82Senior Contributor04 July 2020, 1:53 pm AEST

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@outlander Thinking of you hun. ❤️

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outlanderSenior Contributor04 July 2020, 1:56 pm AEST

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Thank you @Lee82 thinking of you too ❤

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NatureLoverSenior Contributor04 July 2020, 2:00 pm AEST

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I'm really concerned about you, @outlander . I'm worried about how you're possibly going to last physically for the 2 weeks until your procedure.

And I'm worried that if you go to just give the card, someone will make you stay for the dinner... I know you can't eat the dinner, which might offend them, I don't know... And you certainly don't want to try and eat a little bit of the dinner so as not to offend anyone, and make yourself even more ill, and maybe not be able to drive home.

I wish you could just tell them you're too unwell to go to the dinner event, and that the relevant people would say, "We're sorry to hear that, it's fine, take care of yourself!" As any reasonable person would respond!!

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outlanderSenior Contributor04 July 2020, 2:07 pm AEST

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only 12 more days till the procedure @NatureLover im counting down the days atm.

ive reduced what im doing for now. i was asked to work today at the place i occassionally work at but i said i couldnt. ive done 2 horses that i needed to do and only one more this arvo. ive basically just been hanging around doing nothing the rest of the day.

im going to have to take pop anyway to the party and pick him back up but i dont know. i dont know what to do atm. my middle sisters abit like she doesnt really want to go either. shes at that odd age where the adults are older then her and the kids are too little (unless 2 of the other teens go but they acually usually dont either) so she doesnt really want to go. i feel bad cause its like i would be leaving her there to her own defence as well but i just dont know. im going to have to eat something at some point though.

i had to smirk at your comment of what people would say-you would think that right! but no thats never a response that i get

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NatureLoverSenior Contributor04 July 2020, 2:18 pm AEST

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@outlander wrote:
i had to smirk at your comment of what people would say-you would think that right! but no thats never a response that i get

For goodness' sake, people are incredibly...I won't say, but it's not nice!!

I'm glad you're doing less, if possible @outlander I honestly don't know how you keep going, with virtually no food or sleep, let alone your mental health battles. 😥

Is there anyone else who can take your Pop to the party, while you and your middle sister stay home? Then your Pop could also take your card to give them... I know it sounds ideal but probably is not at all easy.

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