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Something’s not right

not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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SnowieSenior Contributor28 June 2020, 6:31 pm AEST

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I hope your sister get the job hun. It is a good way for them to learn responsibility and how much work you need to do in order to earn money!

Will you have the other ones much on the holidays?

@outlander

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 June 2020, 6:39 pm AEST

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ive only got the one other one and shes the youngest @Snowie by the looks of mums roster yes ill have her/them quite abit. all of her shifts start mid arvo through to midnight but i hope that she will do some things with them as well to take the pressure off me too.

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SnowieSenior Contributor28 June 2020, 6:48 pm AEST

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Hopefully your mum does do some things with them so it is not all left up to you @outlander

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 June 2020, 6:52 pm AEST

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i have a few little ideas like going to the lolly shop (which will take at least 2 hours cause of travel etc) and making some cupcakes or homemade pizzas but i dont have much energy and i have my work with the horses and things as well as trying to fit in appointments etc as well. i always dread the holidays

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SnowieSenior Contributor28 June 2020, 7:05 pm AEST

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Just remember hun they are your sisters not your children. I hope you get some 'me' time also @outlander

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 June 2020, 7:11 pm AEST

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thanks @Snowie i will try

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 June 2020, 7:12 pm AEST

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hey @NatureLover

how are you tonight?

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SnowieSenior Contributor28 June 2020, 7:15 pm AEST

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I know you will hun. I just don't want to see you get overwhelmed by having to feel like you need to entertain your sisters for 2 week. I don't want to see you go any more downhill. You are too important to me sis @outlander

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 June 2020, 7:20 pm AEST

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i was hoping the new carer that i arranged through my aged care would be helpful but even after 2 sessions it hasnt been helpful and i have to deal with so much backlash and fall out after the carer has left its hard to deal with. i was going to see if i could get a day off on the day of the procedure including the night but i know that wont happen and pop wont cope if i even asked him to stay with family for the night or something just so i can have a few hours and not be questioned and interuppted all the time. @Snowie

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SnowieSenior Contributor28 June 2020, 7:26 pm AEST

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Sounds like you are stuck hun @outlander Hoping in time your pop will become used to the carer but I know that is a long shot. Just would be nice if he accepted that care for your sake hun.

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