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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor13 June 2020, 4:49 pm AEST

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@Former-Member 😥👎💔

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Unknown userMember13 June 2020, 5:03 pm AEST

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Oh dear ... I hope I havent made things worse Sweetie. Not sure how to interpret your emojies. I can understand your tears and the broken heart. But unsure about the thumbs down? I'm really sorry if I hurt you with anything I said. I would never deliberately say anything to hurt you. I'm sorry @outlander 💕

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outlanderSenior Contributor13 June 2020, 5:06 pm AEST

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its not you at all @Former-Member

its just been a challenging day so it was more aimed at the first bit where you said ive been quiet and had hoped it was cause I was doing self care things.

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Unknown userMember13 June 2020, 5:10 pm AEST

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Oh I see @outlander . I'm relieved that it wasnt anything I said. But I'm disappointed that your quietness is not due to any self care happening. Sorry its been another challenging day for you. I'm going to be a bit busy leading into dinner, with preparations etc. But I will be around later to talk if you'd like to. Are you looking after the siblings today/tonight?

Sherry 🌸

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outlanderSenior Contributor13 June 2020, 5:18 pm AEST

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i guess being busy is stopping me from giving in to my urges @Former-Member im really sick of life.
cant have a nice meal without being sick, cant go for a walk without being in pain. what is the point in anything. maybe i should ask if they can take out all reproductive organs, might solve one problem. i can barely sit comfortably anymore. i don't want to pass on these horrid genes to any kids. theres other options out there like you've mentioned if i feel like i can be a mum and right now that doesn't even feel close but there is other options at least.

i don't have the kids this weekend, but i have them all next week till the weekend again.

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outlanderSenior Contributor13 June 2020, 5:20 pm AEST

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im sorry i don't want to add to anything that anyone is going through. ill see if i can find someone to help before i try and attempt something for dinner

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Unknown userMember13 June 2020, 5:31 pm AEST

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I'm so so sorry for all that you are going through @outlander ... and of course I know there is nothing I can offer that will help. But I really do care and I feel so much for you. As I mentioned above ... its all about quality of life. And if that operation is necessary to restore some quality of life, with less pain and all the other issues around it, then it may well be a good option. But nobody other than you can make that decision. Its a massive decision for someone as young as you, and I'm sure its not taken lightly by those who are suggesting it. There may also be an option to freeze embryos/eggs for possible future use. Worth considering Little One.

I hope you are able to eat something for your dinner. The lack of proper nutrition would not be helping your frame of mind either I'm sure. @Owlunar @Sans911

Sherry 💕

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outlanderSenior Contributor13 June 2020, 5:36 pm AEST

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thanks @Former-Member
i know you care

i don't think they would take they whole lot, it would be some other treatments to see if it would work first. sometimes i just think 'take the whole lot out' at least it would be one less thing to worry about. it is a huge thing though and nothings being taken lightly atm. it is really hard to know what to do and what to try. its almost getting to the point where im going to have to tell my mother, i didn't want to do that.

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Unknown userMember13 June 2020, 6:54 pm AEST

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@outlander , I am sorry today has been a bad one for you. I can't offer any better support than what @Former-Member has given you this afternoon all I can do is offer you my hand to hold, shoulder to cry on and as many hugs as you want. I will be thinking of you tonight. Nikki

A big hello to @Former-Member @Sans911 @Eve7 @mudsum @Maggie @Zoe7 @Snowie

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SnowieSenior Contributor13 June 2020, 7:01 pm AEST

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@Former-Member @outlander @Former-Member @Owlunar @Sans911 @Eve7 @Maggie and anyone else following along. Lots of hugs n love 💌💌💕💕

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