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Something’s not right

not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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thanks @Former-Member
you say your that nurturing but your writing says different. maybe not as much as Izzy but I don't think your too far behind (maybe just not the smothering sort 😏 )
I hate speaking badly about my mother, it really saddens me so I try not to say anything but today has just all added up and really just made me feel so unimportant, and worthless even more then what I thought I was

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NatureLoverSenior Contributor

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@outlander wrote:
today has just all added up and really just made me feel so unimportant, and worthless even more then what I thought I was

I'm just so sorry to hear this 😥

Thinking of you lots @outlander ...

I'm going to log off now, but I hope you can get some sleep and relief from the pain and thoughts.

Sending hugs to you and also @Former-Member .

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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thank you for your support @NatureLover
I hope you can get some sleep and tomorrow is good for you ❤

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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H and the kids ended up going away which I am happy about. Just b/c I am in here doesn't mean they can't go enjoy themselves so I am glad that they went.

They have Monday of school so will come home then. I still have ECT on Monday even though it is a public holiday.

I know you are not one to just sit around hun, but please take some time out to rest. Your body has been through so much @outlander and is still going through so much. I just wish you had people around you to look after you for awhile instead of you being the caregiver all the time. We all need to be on the receiving end from time to time, and you are no exception to that either. Even though you are wonder woman hun, even wonder woman needs looking after at times.

I'm going to log off hun and try and get some sleep. Will check in on you tomorrow sis.

💜💌💜💌

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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it would be nice to be on the receiving end once in a while @Snowie I mean I don't want to be sick or anything but sometimes having someone care is nice and to have a break. its a shame usually something serious has to happen for a break, timeout of caring to happen.

I really hope you can get some peaceful sleep tonight and minimal nightmares or even better-none!
goodnight 💜💜💜💜💜

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Lee82Senior Contributor

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@outlander Perhaps you should make a little list of things to do tomorrow? Just a couple things and then you can leave sometime to rest in between that way you don't feel so overwhelmed with everything. Even it's something as simple as baking something or spending a little time colouring. Make a list of things you can do just for yourself. Don't worry about the cleaning for now. There will always be cleaning to do so it can wait. It is not a matter of life and de*th. Treat yourself hun. You deserve a little pampering. Maybe a nice warm bath with some bath salts and some music. Make the most of the time you have alone.

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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tomorrow I really only have the horses morning and arvo and the kids for a few hours at night for dinner @Lee82

I don't some baking today. I made 3 batches of cupcakes and then gave some to 2 families who are having a really tough time atm plus shared some to mums household as well.

ive gotten abit wobbly so im having something a little more sugary atm. itll cause havoc in my stomach but I think that's whats causing it.
im watching a movie atm but ill got to bed pretty soon and at least lay down.

are you doing abit better now?

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Unknown userMember

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Good morning little one, I hope you managed some sleep. That was not right what that family did with your art, so inconsiderate 😡 I hope all went well with the horses this morning. 💜Nikki

@outlander

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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@Former-Member
It was people in my own family that threw them out- in my immediate family

Horses were ok this morning thanks

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Unknown userMember

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Can Izzy adopt you😞 that's not right at all. I am so sorry little one, family can be so heartless at times. How are you feeling today. 💜Nikki

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