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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor02 Apr 2025, 8:38 pm AEDT

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thank you @Jynx @Eve7
im tired of trying. it doesnt work out well for me and i am exhausted. i need to see my gp next week. its going to cost me nearly $200. the new psychiatrist when i can see them is apparently another 600 as well so this is crazy expensive for mental health. no wonder so many go untreated. im working and i amd struggling to even keep my head above water let alone with mental or physical health expenses

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outlanderSenior Contributor03 Apr 2025, 4:40 pm AEDT

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i feel like such a failure. watching life crumble around me and not being able to do a thing to stop it.
i use to have so much fight and this time its just fading away waiting for whatever happens next

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Ru-beeModerator03 Apr 2025, 4:54 pm AEDT

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Hearing how hard things are for you right now @outlander and that it's feeling like you're just trying to keep your head above water. Is there anything we can do to help prop you up?

We're here for you 💗

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outlanderSenior Contributor03 Apr 2025, 5:07 pm AEDT

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the one thing i was still good at and where i felt useful is now gone @Ru-bee there is nothing left for me now. ive offically given up everything because of mental health or accident injury

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Ru-beeModerator03 Apr 2025, 5:34 pm AEDT

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It really sounds like this injury has caused you to lose your sense of purpose @outlander and that's a huge thing to lose. Such a big change could naturally bring on some grieving too.

With that in mind it's completely understandable that you'd be feeling this way and I want to acknowledge that pain, while also wondering if there's a possibility that we each have more than one purpose, and maybe when one ends we might find another. It certainly might not be something that happens now, but I don't believe that any person is only good for one thing.

Again, that's not to invalidate what you're feeling now or to try to put a positive spin on a really hard situation, more to let you know that even if you're able to feel hope right now, I'll feel it for you

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outlanderSenior Contributor03 Apr 2025, 5:44 pm AEDT

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ive been trying to find purpose in many things @Ru-bee
all my sports have been taken away and i no longer have passion to teach what i cant be near.
tried volunterring for a few different places
tried a different job, tried multiple different companies
no longer a carer
i have a job i use to be good at and now i just keep loosing out because i have so many limitations that it doesnt even feel worth doing the job

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Ru-beeModerator03 Apr 2025, 5:54 pm AEDT

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I hear you @outlander and I certainly wouldn't think it's a lack of trying that's left you feeling this way. I sincerely hope that something comes along that strikes a chord with you and ignites some of that passion once again. I wish I could do more than just hope for you, but if that's what I can do then I'm going to be hoping real hard!

I'm just about to head off for the evening but I'll check back in with you tomorrow if you're around

Take care

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Shaz51Senior Contributor03 Apr 2025, 6:06 pm AEDT

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hugs and sitting with you @outlander 😍

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outlanderSenior Contributor04 Apr 2025, 10:32 am AEDT

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thanks @Ru-bee @Shaz51

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outlanderSenior Contributor06 Apr 2025, 4:44 pm AEST

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is anyone around to talk to?

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