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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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what is MBT? @tyme that isnt a therapy im familiar with i dont think. it isnt one thats been suggested to me

oh! i see i thought you meant 18 months as an inpatient. sorry!
4 days of work would be ok for me if i do the weekends so maybe intensive therapy may be an option but i would def need to save up for that.

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outlanderSenior Contributor

Re: not coping

i just had a quick research @tyme
i do have a psychology session this week so it could be something i speak to my psych about.
i have done ACT, CBT and DBT and exposure therapy in the past

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tymeModerator

Re: not coping

MBT is relatively new in Australia.. not many people do it because of the committment. The program requires both an individual and group sessions over a minimum 18 months. @outlander Mine was through the public system. And yes, 18 months is massive in terms of cost and that's another reason why not many people do it, and there aren't many trained clinicans either.

I feel super lucky to have got into it. And I'm glad I did because it's changed my BPD life around.

What about schema therapy for you?

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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im not sure ive done schema @tyme
to be honest i havent stuck with many psychologists long enough. the psychologist im with now ive been with her for a year i think and its still hard to really talk to her. shes mostly been a sounding/venting board for a while now with all the changes happening.
i want the help but sometimes i dont think im overly compliant. not because i dont want to but its that fear that if i let go abit ill get back out of control

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tymeModerator

Re: not coping

Hearing you @outlander . Don't worry about being compliant. A skilled therapist will know what to say/do.

You think I was compliant? No way!

On my Mental Health Advance Statement that hospitals, doctors, any everyone gets, it clearly states "Do NOT tell me what to do."

And I wasn't joking. The more people told me what to do, the more I felt they were taking control of me so I flipped the other way....

Anyway, I'd love to go on, but I need to wrap up now. I'll see you mid week. All the best with work tomorrow!

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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thank you for sharing @tyme that all makes sense. this condition can be such a challange sometimes!

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SnowieSenior Contributor

Re: not coping

Hi @outlander sorry I wasn't around yesterday but glad you had some support.

Hoping today is going ok for you hon 💌💌

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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hey @Snowie how are you

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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Going ok @outlander Just a few things happening

How are you going?

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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im ok. went for a big walk today so resting before work now @Snowie
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