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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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JynxModerator25 May 2024, 7:00 pm AEST

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@outlander sorry things are extra tough for you atm hun - if there's anything you wanna chat about or get off your chest, I'm here for you 💜

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outlanderSenior Contributor25 May 2024, 7:08 pm AEST

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there is nothing @Snowie
i had hobbies and i dont feel like doing any of them. i have no motivation or energy to do it.

i got a tattoo but the excitement from that has even worn off now.
i still have to think about moving as well but i cant till i pay some debts off and i still have so much of the house to do. i need to ty and get as much as possible done before i go away in july for a few weeks if i make it till then mentally as its going downhill fast.

thanks @Jynx guess its just everything

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JynxModerator25 May 2024, 7:22 pm AEST

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@outlander mm I hear you hun, it's a big pile of ugh, a barrel of blech, and a helping of oof.

Is there a bit of a sense of there being so much to do that your hobbies feel like a 'waste of time' at the moment? Or more the anhedonia side of things?

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outlanderSenior Contributor25 May 2024, 8:04 pm AEST

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I don’t know @Jynx doesn’t matter what hobby I pick up like drawing or crochet or even scrapbooking I do about 10 minutes and I give up. There’s no joy in it

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JynxModerator25 May 2024, 8:29 pm AEST

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Mm so anhedonia stuff @outlander. That is so rough hun. Have you had a chance to chat to any of your supports about it?

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outlanderSenior Contributor25 May 2024, 9:19 pm AEST

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What supports @Jynx I don’t have anyone.
I had support workers but it got to expensive so I don’t have them and haven’t had them for a while now and my mhcp is nearly finished so sessions are basically once a month at this point because even though my insurance will cover some it’s not enough right now I can’t afford the big gap fees at this stage

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JynxModerator25 May 2024, 9:41 pm AEST

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@outlander oh no I'm sorry hun, I didn't realise you'd had to cancel your SWs, that does make things harder. Anhedonia is such a tricky one, and unique to everyone as to the underlying causes. I found this blog that talks about the science of it - it talks about certain regions of the brain responsible for our mood regulation that can shrink, thus making it harder to produce dopamine. The article is related to addiction but I think it can be widely applicable, and there's some suggestions in there to try, if you wanted. It is treatable, is also a big takeaway - regions that can shrink can also grow again, it just takes time.

I'm logging off soon so I will bid you goodnight hun. I hope tomorrow is easier on you, and I will chat to you next time. Huuugs🫂💜

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outlanderSenior Contributor26 May 2024, 6:09 pm AEST

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thanks @Jynx ill read it

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tymeModerator26 May 2024, 6:19 pm AEST

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Hey @outlander ,

Hope you are okay.

Thinking of you.

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outlanderSenior Contributor26 May 2024, 6:56 pm AEST

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No not really @tyme but it doesn’t matter.

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