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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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Sans911Senior Contributor

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Oh wow, lil Sis @outlander

This is massive, life-changing news. You will have to make many adjustments, and life will seem quite different for a while. I have every confidence you will manage and be okay. You are one of the strongest people I have known, yet I know too that you have been through so many challenges with your health and life. I hope in time you get the supports you need in place to help you start moving forward to a better quality of life. You have gone above and beyond caring for your pop. Time for a rest now and to discover who you are. Much love

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Emelia8Senior Contributor

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Big news indeed @outlander , but mostly good for your Pop and also I think for you. ♥

Fingers crossed that NDIS comes to the party to provide the support you need. 🌷🌻

So many huge changes in your life and you keep taking it all in your stride. Much love and respect to you. 💞

Lovely to see you @Sans911 😊

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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Good morning @Sans911

So nice to see you on here. I hope things are going ok for you hon.

Sending lots of love 💌

Wishing you both a good day @outlander @Emelia8

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BunniekinsSenior Contributor

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@outlander oh sweetheart my second son is now in a supported living arrangement and it is hard. he asked me yesterday if he could always come home ... broke my heart. i know what you are going through. xxxx

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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Thanks @Shaz51 I think it’s only a couple of weeks but that’s ok it’s better than nothing to start with. I’m using the 6 week respite first but that means having to pay all the bills myself as al pops $ will go on respite anyway

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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So good to see you sis @Sans911

I know there’s going to be soo many challenges 😞 but I also know this is the opportunity I’ve been waiting for to be able to actually do something to improve my life. It’s terrifying and exciting at the same time, more overwhelming at the moment though knowing how much still has to be done and the rental market at this stage is soo hard and expensive to get into.

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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I think it’ll be better for us both @Emelia8 I’ve been struggling to care for him for some time and also myself. My ability to care for myself is worsening and the pressures of caring for him and doing what’s best for him is to much. At least in a home I know he will be getting support good meals and less shuffling around when I need to go to work.

Hopefully ndis comes through soon as I could use the support now. I was self funding however this won’t be possible now and I will be on my own. It is scary

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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@Snowie ❤️❤️❤️

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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It will be hard every time he says it and the family have put that responsibility on me @Bunniekins but I know deep down it is the right thing to do for me and for him too

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BunniekinsSenior Contributor

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@outlander yes it is stay strong in the knowledge of it being the right thing to do for both of you. xx

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