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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor

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Hello @Eve7 @Bow @creative_writer

I agree with @tyme about life stages and you @outlander def being a good presence on the forums. How much is an over share or an undershare??? Seems pretty fickle to tell or to get it right.

Yep I too am practising by writing before speaking. Last year was my social re-engagement year. I learned a lot and mingled a bit. Social rules or norms are always shifting according to who has the highest status in the particular group. This year I am focussing on other things. I will continue to reflect on my social life, cos I simply have always been like that, but it is not going to be my main focus for this year. I have a right to be a person like all the other people, just be me, make mistakes, apologise and move on, and so do you. Not blaming self for other people's limitations. I am doing work on my people pleasing and little helper mode, and trying to expand my "recipe range" if you get what I mean. People also boast about friends as a kind of proof that they are better.

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tymeModerator

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How are you @outlander ?

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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@creative_writer thank you for your kind words. your so lovely

@Appleblossom im trying to focus on other things too, other goals. its hard though sometimes. it always feels easier to mingle and be social behind a screen then in real life hey.

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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@outlander sending love hon. Hoping things are going as well as they can ♥️

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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im struggling abit @tyme
i think with everything happening its all come to a tee and just need to process things like i resigned from a job to take on the new job and then i lost that one so its all been tough and the increased behaviours that are happening at home. its all just been alot to process the last few weeks. the fact that ivr had to go back to the most toxic environment to work in is really hard for me and i dont want to be there at all. ive only done one shift there the last few days and it feels like its broken me already

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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@Snowie

are you still on holidays?

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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Yes @outlander should be home about the 11th/12th.

I'm sorry things are not great for you hon. I have been reading along in the background.

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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hey @tyme are you around? would it be possible to talk on email? i just need some help with a document for a new support company but theres to many personal details to be shared on here

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tymeModerator

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Of course @outlander !

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creative_writerSenior Contributor

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@outlander 💖🫂
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