Connect with people who understand what you are going through, seek advice and surround yourself with support. We're free, anonymous, and professionally moderated 24/7.

47,612Members
1,358,869Posts
1,400,000Visitors

Something’s not right

not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

18135 replies

16,231 - 16,240 of 18,135

1...1,623 1,624 1,625...1,814

In response to: not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor23 Dec 2023, 9:49 pm AEDT

Re: not coping

thanks @Snowie @Eve7 @tyme @creative_writer
i reached out for help offline before i went to work and they just told me i need to think happy thoughts when i expressed my worries about how much my mh has declined and also my chronic pain levels have been increasing and affecting my mobility more lately which is concerning. the medical treatment i just went for was suppose to help

i was also told that my favourite client has passed away as well today so thats making things harder for me too

In response to: Re: not coping

creative_writerSenior Contributor23 Dec 2023, 10:04 pm AEDT

Re: not coping

@outlander, do you think it’ll help if you reach out to SANE once it’s running again. I was thinking of reaching out since I have a lot of chaos to work through. Though I think I’ll work through it by writing it out first so I know how to structure the call. I can understand how invalidating it may feel to think happy thoughts. Sometimes you just have to let yourself feel. I’m sorry to hear your favourite client passed away 🫂. This image has helped me:

In response to: Re: not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor23 Dec 2023, 10:09 pm AEDT

Re: not coping

yeah i might reach out to sane. im not sure though @creative_writer
i am usually positive about most things but as soon as im negative i just get told to think happy thoughts and be positive.

i cant see your pic yet but ill keep an eye out for when its approved

In response to: Re: not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor23 Dec 2023, 10:53 pm AEDT

Re: not coping

I like that picture @creative_writer

In response to: Re: not coping

creative_writerSenior Contributor24 Dec 2023, 8:25 am AEDT

Re: not coping

@outlander, I’ve found SANE helpful on most occasions. I hope if you do reach out, you feel comfortable and understood by the person. Telling someone to be positive does not help. All emotions are valid and need to be experienced. I hope you are feeling better today 💖

In response to: Re: not coping

SnowieSenior Contributor24 Dec 2023, 12:02 pm AEDT

Re: not coping

@outlander wishing you a good day today hon

Sending love 💌💌

In response to: Re: not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor24 Dec 2023, 3:55 pm AEDT

Re: not coping

thanks @Snowie @creative_writer

im working a double shift today so i dont finish till 930 tonight and then need to go home and start baking treats for tomorrows brunch. just glad theres not many people so only need to do 3 different batches. providing im home and started by 10 i should be finished most by midnight. i can finish it the rest off early tomorrow morning before i start cooking breakfast.

im volunteering with a company tomorrow evening for a few hours to help with a homeless shelters dinner so after everything done for brunch while pops with his family ill be out helping for a few hours at the christmas dinner for the homeless.

In response to: Re: not coping

SnowieSenior Contributor24 Dec 2023, 4:01 pm AEDT

Re: not coping

I hope work goes ok @outlander and you get the treats finished tonight.

That is so nice of you to volunteer hon. You really do have a big heart. It is so nice when you can give, warm and fuzzies inside 💜💜

In response to: Re: not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor24 Dec 2023, 4:06 pm AEDT

Re: not coping

ill finish them tonight. by the time presents are done and brunch and cleaning up itll be time to drop pop to family then go help @Snowie so its a big day for me.
if i i can help someone feel abit better on christmas thatll be nice for them. i brought a heap of candy canes to give out as people come in so itll be a nice greeting for them. ive also been doing up christmas cards on behalf of the company so each person or i hope as ive made 100 so far and 100 candy canes hopefully itll do everyone so everyone will get a card and candy cane when they leave

In response to: Re: not coping

tymeModerator24 Dec 2023, 4:09 pm AEDT

Re: not coping

Hey @outlander ,

Even in all your pain, you still think of others. The credit really goes to you.

I also recognise and agree with what you said that you are usually a very optimistic person. Yet I can see things are really very hard at the moment.

I know you don't often ask for help, so when you do, you really need it.

Is there anything you can think of that the forum community can assist you with?

We want you to know that you are not alone.

tyme

16,231 - 16,240 of 18,135

1...1,623 1,624 1,625...1,814

SANE Forums is published by SANE with funding from the Australian Government Department of Health.

SANE Forums does not provide crisis support.
If you need immediate assistance, please see available crisis services.

Learn more about SANE and SANE services at sane.org

Aboriginal flag

Torres Strait Islander flag

Transgender flag

SANE acknowledges the Traditional Owners of Country throughout Australia and recognises the continuing connection to lands, waters and communities. We pay our respect to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures; and to Elders past and present.

SANE values diversity. We are committed to providing a safe, culturally appropriate, and inclusive service for all people, regardless of their ethnicity, faith, disability, sexuality, or gender identity.

Aboriginal flag

Torres Strait Islander flag

Transgender flag

SANE acknowledges the Traditional Owners of Country throughout Australia and recognises the continuing connection to lands, waters and communities. We pay our respect to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures; and to Elders past and present.

SANE values diversity. We are committed to providing a safe, culturally appropriate, and inclusive service for all people, regardless of their ethnicity, faith, disability, sexuality, or gender identity.