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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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yes i think ill be stepping back from there @Snowie i need to for my own mental health

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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Stepping away when you know you need to shows a lot of strength @outlander

Have you done much today?

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Captain24Senior Contributor

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Sorry @outlander. Injust want to pop in. I do follow along but don’t comment. I think you have found me difficult so Ive stayed away.

I just want to say with what you are talking about. You can’t help someone that doesn’t want to be helped. Doesn’t take suggestions, doesn’t take support. I could say more but I won’t.

You need to do what is the best for you. I know you stepped away from me for similar reason. So I will pop back out..

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MelbcoffeesnobSenior Contributor

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Hi @outlander

You sound like a lovely supportive caring person, just being there for someone and listening can make a world of difference to someone.

Please remember that helping someone else in their time of need is also an important lesson in self-care knowing when you need to take care of yourself as well.

It's essential to maintain you are able to manage your own well-being while helping another person in their time of need.

What are some of your go-to self-care activities?

-Melbcoffeesnob

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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hey @Captain24 its not you at all. i actually read along with yours and try and keep up with your news but since ive gotten this new job i havent been online as much. i was actually reading along today and have your thread open in a new tab on my list to catch up/reply to. youve never upset me and i like reading about the time you spend with Pix to but i am sorry to hear whats happening with her at the moment and hoping she doesnt need surgery. i also did read that your heading away for a few days. you deserve that break away. the only thing i didnt read was if Pix is heading away with you?

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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I've decided to step away from there for my own self-care.


My work takes a lot mentally but I like to help my friends here. i just didn't expect it to be this tough mentally with the new company, I forget how much time and effort it takes to help a new start-up company get established.

I've also been quite unwell myself but one of my greatest joys is being able to spend time with my friends here wherever I can

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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just work @Snowie and im still babysitting at the moment so have responsibilties here plus pops being incredibly needy at the moment because routine has been upset. i contacted 2 more homes today and has been waitlisted

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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Sorry to hear about your Pop and him being more demanding hon @outlander

Fingers crossed you hear back from someone soon.

Are you working tomorrow?

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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at this stage no @Snowie but i have the drs and pop has physio. i will probably do some work from home if i finally get some emails back with information.
im back in the office wednesday and thursday, night shift thursday and friday then sat arvo and double on sunday

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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Sounds like your week gets busier as you go along @outlander

I'm glad you are enjoying your new work place. Must make it easier to go to work.

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