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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 Oct 2023, 2:37 pm AEDT

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yeah its hard @Snowie and change is hard for people with dementia. doesnt sink in

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SnowieSenior Contributor28 Oct 2023, 2:44 pm AEDT

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She had 3 bank accounts with 3 different banks @outlander She was getting so confused by it. So I set it up that she is just banking with 1 bank. We also put my name down on the account so I can help her access her money.

We went to the banks yesterday to close down her accounts. I told her about 5 times where we were going but she just forgot each time.

There is no way she could have done it herself.

It is just sad.

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 Oct 2023, 2:46 pm AEDT

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no when they reach a certain stage they cant really do much for themselves when it comes to important things in particular @Snowie

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SnowieSenior Contributor28 Oct 2023, 2:49 pm AEDT

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She had 3 cards too so was getting confused about which one to use, so now she just has one card @outlander

The doctor put another referral in for the specialist. Still waiting.....

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 Oct 2023, 3:03 pm AEDT

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hopefully you can get into the speicalist soon

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SnowieSenior Contributor28 Oct 2023, 3:10 pm AEDT

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Hopefully @outlander

Any plans for tonight or tomorrow?

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outlanderSenior Contributor28 Oct 2023, 3:26 pm AEDT

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just babysitting @Snowie and kid sport tomorrow. school run and pick ups monday and tuesday. home tuesday night hopefully not to late. pity i wasnt getting paid for this

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tymeModerator28 Oct 2023, 3:28 pm AEDT

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Hey @outlander ,

I feel I haven't seen you around in ages. Hope you are okay.

Hey @Snowie

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SnowieSenior Contributor28 Oct 2023, 3:34 pm AEDT

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It's a shame you don't get paid for it @outlander

They just assume that you will do it.

Hi @tyme How has your day been?

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tymeModerator28 Oct 2023, 3:38 pm AEDT

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My day is okay. I've been doing a lot of thinking about how upset I am with my niece. I haven't felt this hurt in ages... I mean, I have been hurt by her before, but it hasn't been a lingering hurt... @Snowie

So yeah, I know she's a kid and she's only 7, but the things she has been saying lately have been so terrible.

Yes, I can get over it quickly, but I'm thinking about how to best help her learn that she can't say hurtful things on purpose....

As a mother, have you experienced anything like this with your kids??

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