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Something’s not right

not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor11 Oct 2023, 4:23 pm AEDT

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might need to see someone else @Snowie many do telehealth now for more rural typeareas. you could set up a zoom appointment for her

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SnowieSenior Contributor11 Oct 2023, 4:28 pm AEDT

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We go see her gp next week @outlander so will ask then about a different specialist or someone we could zoom with. Any specialist will be at least an hours drive away. Like everything with health care, it takes so bloody long.

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outlanderSenior Contributor11 Oct 2023, 4:45 pm AEDT

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we were lucky in that we only waiting 6 months to see the specialist pop has and it was definently worth the wait. @Snowie hopefully you can find another one with less wait time

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SnowieSenior Contributor11 Oct 2023, 5:02 pm AEDT

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I hope it is not too much longer @outlander

I have noticed changes in her the last few months. She has trouble remembering a lot of things and names of objects. I don't mind supporting her because she is my mum, but I know it will get harder on both of us as it goes along.

I know you understand this with all that you have gone through with your pop.

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outlanderSenior Contributor11 Oct 2023, 5:08 pm AEDT

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def get her an assessment with my aged care. they can allocate funding even without a specialist referral. then she can have some support workers etc herself @Snowie

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SnowieSenior Contributor11 Oct 2023, 5:11 pm AEDT

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Thanks @outlander

Have a few things I need to look into. Hoping the gp next week can lead us in the right direction. She hasn't got a formal diagnosis yet so not sure if that will affect anything.

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outlanderSenior Contributor11 Oct 2023, 5:13 pm AEDT

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not always. it goes off what care she needs. you can self refer to ACAT. they do their own reviews etc @Snowie

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SnowieSenior Contributor11 Oct 2023, 5:45 pm AEDT

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Thanks @outlander will look into it

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outlanderSenior Contributor11 Oct 2023, 5:48 pm AEDT

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hope they can help @Snowie

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outlanderSenior Contributor11 Oct 2023, 5:51 pm AEDT

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have any plans for tomorrow @Snowie

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