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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor02 Oct 2023, 7:41 pm AEDT

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no worries @Snowie enjoy dinner

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SnowieSenior Contributor03 Oct 2023, 10:01 am AEDT

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@outlander hope work went ok hon and you managed to get some sleep.

Have a good day 💕💕

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outlanderSenior Contributor03 Oct 2023, 4:08 pm AEDT

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thanks @Snowie have had the procedure done last night. abit uncomfortable but not unbearable. hopefully im well enough by friday to not need it and then i can get it taken out.
didnt get home till about midnight though but im tolerating toast now since the procedure change and better med administration so im taking that as a win! if i can have full meals and tolerate it by friday i will be cheering.

not much sleep but nothing unusual there.
im at work now again but hoping itll be a short shift. tomorrow im going to see a RN to interview to become apart of my care team. i have one currently but she is also now my boss so i cant always rely on her for that support plus it sort of changes that relationship when you work for them so im seeking another one to become part of my care team in helping manage so many complex conditions. i didnt really want to add another person but i sort of need to at this point and need that consistent help that i can be honest with when i need medical treatments and things.

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SnowieSenior Contributor03 Oct 2023, 4:14 pm AEDT

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Hopefully it is bearable for you @outlander If it helps with the pain then it's a good thing.

Hope this new RN works out for you. Any support we can get is a good thing.

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outlanderSenior Contributor03 Oct 2023, 4:19 pm AEDT

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it is definently helping @Snowie and so much better then getting physical injections every 4 hours. the set up allows me to do them myself now not that im overly crash hot on it and still nearly pass out lol. (im such a sook when it comes to needles!!) but hopefully with some practice itll be ok but im hoping friday itll be enough to come back out.

i did have a decent RN but she often didnt have suggestions and felt i was more needing to help her then her help me so she become my boss in one of my new workplaces. im looking for one that i can help get some care plans done up and actually start to manage these conditions esp the 3 main physical ones. a few suggested i should try for ndis but id feel weird being someone who is able to work in the capacity i do even if its admin work and have that support.

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SnowieSenior Contributor03 Oct 2023, 4:37 pm AEDT

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Ndis might be an option for you @outlander I guess it just depends if you feel like you can still work. Admin work does sound a bit easier then being on your feet the whole shift. Especially if you can do it from home.

I know my dad was on ndis when he was alive. It did take the pressure of my mum so that she could be his primary carer.

I do hope this new RN is suitable for you.

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outlanderSenior Contributor03 Oct 2023, 4:50 pm AEDT

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I’m allowed to work even being on ndis they actually encourage it but I’m fiercely independent even though I could use the help @Snowie so I’m not sure

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SnowieSenior Contributor03 Oct 2023, 4:57 pm AEDT

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Well you pay taxes @outlander so if you are entitled to it then I say go for it.

You deserve the help hon. It might be just what you need.

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outlanderSenior Contributor03 Oct 2023, 5:39 pm AEDT

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maybe @Snowie im not sure yet. im sure theres more deserving people out there that need it more then i do

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SnowieSenior Contributor03 Oct 2023, 5:47 pm AEDT

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I can understand the hesitation @outlander

What have you got planned for tomorrow?

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