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Something’s not right

not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor21 Sept 2023, 2:29 pm AEST

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i am around @tyme

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outlanderSenior Contributor21 Sept 2023, 7:32 pm AEST

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the frustration and sadness grows 😞 its getting tiring

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SnowieSenior Contributor21 Sept 2023, 7:42 pm AEST

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i'm sorry @outlander

what has happened?

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tymeModerator21 Sept 2023, 7:57 pm AEST

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Hugs @outlander ,

Want a chat?

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outlanderSenior Contributor21 Sept 2023, 8:08 pm AEST

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just stuff at work. fake people. life revolving around everyone else as per usual. its tiring. nothing i ever seem to do is enough or right for some. my efforts to do something right is never 'well done' its aways pick out the bad parts or because it inconveniences them

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tymeModerator21 Sept 2023, 8:20 pm AEST

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Awww @outlander . Do you think you can start looking for something else for after your treatment? You have such a big heart.

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outlanderSenior Contributor21 Sept 2023, 8:25 pm AEST

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I’m already looking and applying @tyme I’ve already had a promising interview the other day

Tonight I had a situation under control at work and then pop went and bad it worse with his own behaviours so it’s making it even harder to go to work now unless it’s on weekends. He shouldn’t even be there in the first place but I have no choice at the moment.

And then when I done handover it become all about that staff member and what she would’ve done differently and made herself look good and me like crap.

I go and tell people I’ve applied for jobs and I get told not to or that I’m selfish because I have to look after pop or whatever they come up with.

Honestly I need some time away from it all so this treatment and the week off after it cannot come fast enough

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tymeModerator21 Sept 2023, 9:27 pm AEST

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I'm hearing how difficult the shift was @outlander . It sounds like it's maybe time to move on to a new workplace - which you know already.

You definitely have a lot in you. I can see some many strong traits of yours as a peer worker or social worker.

I hope things work out with your pop. I see how being a full time carer can take a lot of of you, especially when he is not getting any younger.

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outlanderSenior Contributor21 Sept 2023, 9:36 pm AEST

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i dont know what to do anymore @tyme

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tymeModerator21 Sept 2023, 9:50 pm AEST

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I don't think it's my place to tell you what to do. However, I am concerned with how much you are carrying on your own and how it is affecting you @outlander .

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