Yeah @outlander , I am hearing how overwhelming everything is that just making a decision and what steps to take are super hard lil Sis. And it’s not stupid at all about not worrying people. When I was diagnosed with breast cancer last year I wasn’t sure whether I should tell anyone straight away either. And everything happened so quickly as well. Tests, biopsy and the results within a day, making decisions about surgery, what kind of surgery to have, these all happened in the space of less than 2 months. And I actually had a cancer that was considered by some medical specialists as a ‘pre-cancer’. So the cancer you have before you have cancer???!!! What??
And I know the issues with meds and your gut. Sorry, it was just a suggestion but maybe there is something that might help without impacting on you. And what a daft thing to say from the pdoc. Such a shame that is a common line that is peddled out by many of them.
I figured out some time ago that when you where saying ‘I pay’ that it was likely that you were responsible for managing his money. Thanks for clarifying though. And even though you think your pop might not be violent or hurt you, it’s not unknown in dementia patients. Good that you have a plan of escape even from his anger if that happens. Which is quite likely. Sometimes you need other people to tell him his behaviour is unacceptable, because he thinks it doesn’t matter with you.
And yes, it would be nice for you to be there to support him, but sometimes that isn’t possible. When people are angry, it can become very difficult to make them see reason. Space apart might be helpful for both of you,
