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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor16 May 2020, 7:55 pm AEST

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how are you going tonight? @Sans911

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Zoe7Senior Contributor16 May 2020, 7:56 pm AEST

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No Cat is asking for her biscuits so should give them to her @outlander Watching Death in Paradise but it is one I have already seen - cannot remember how it ends though so happy to watch it again.

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Sans911Senior Contributor16 May 2020, 7:57 pm AEST

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I'm OK @outlander - quite tired but my mood is a little better.

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outlanderSenior Contributor16 May 2020, 8:01 pm AEST

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oh I haven't seen that @Zoe7 might have to watch it sometime

im glad to hear @Sans911 and its great your zoom baking meeting went really well too.

ill be back soon, we have WW3 happening here again. getting very sick of it. Wish I could just up and move away from everything for a while. 🥴😣

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Zoe7Senior Contributor16 May 2020, 8:04 pm AEST

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This might be a question you cannot answer @outlander but what is stopping you from just getting up and leaving for a while?

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outlanderSenior Contributor16 May 2020, 8:07 pm AEST

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I cant afford a house on my own plus the added expenses, pop needs a carer, all of my life even though its not ideal is here where I am @Zoe7

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Zoe7Senior Contributor16 May 2020, 8:09 pm AEST

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I meant just for a night or 2 @outlander A little respite for yourself. Let others look after your pop - it might make them realise just how much yiu do and what pressure you are constantly under ...just a thought but one worth considering.

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outlanderSenior Contributor16 May 2020, 8:13 pm AEST

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oh @Zoe7 as much as id love to I literally have no where to go and right now I cant afford to stay in a hotel not when I know I may have some large expenses coming up.
the carers respite only works its urgent ie if I was to end up in hospital and they set it up or its planned ahead

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Zoe7Senior Contributor16 May 2020, 8:18 pm AEST

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Yeah the expense of a hotel is too much right now @outlander I wasn't however talking about carer's respite but your mother looking after him. I can already hear you saying she wouldn't or that she has other things to do - but you do so much of her work and about time she took some responsibility for ALL her children and as a result giving you a break from your pop.

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outlanderSenior Contributor16 May 2020, 8:25 pm AEST

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I cant see that happening and I cant handle another blow up atm @Zoe7 Even if my mother was to look after pop I still have no where to go. if she comes here it honestly doesn't make things any different, sometimes worse. the way pop is sadly he cant handle the kids being here for more then 2 hours unless they are seen and not heard. he thinks even them laughing or playing is them arguing and fighting and blows up so its not ideal either. its a really hard situation.
she only works of an arvo/night now so shes been doing a lot with the kids and their school etc and her partner has some nights free so he has them so my role has dropped abit with them.

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