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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor23 Aug 2023, 10:58 am AEST

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oh dear @Snowie

im sitting at home at the moment as have a new hot water system being put in. so far the new tanks been delivered and the electrican for the safety switch has been. just have to wait around for them to take the old one and for the new one to be installed properly hopefully before lunch time so i can go for a walk before i pick up pop

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SnowieSenior Contributor23 Aug 2023, 11:05 am AEST

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Thats exciting @outlander Glad to hear it is all going in and getting hooked up.

Hopefully you will have time to go for a walk. Do you have to work tonight? Last night seemed to be really hectic for you.

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outlanderSenior Contributor23 Aug 2023, 11:10 am AEST

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yes finally can have a decent hot shower @Snowie its only taken 3 complaints and several across the last year lol
no im not working tonight because of pop. cant go to work when hes at day programs all day unless its a short shift but they got another staff member on board to replace the shifts i now have to give up
last night was next level crazy and it dragged on so while all the crazy was happening it wasnt making the shift go any faster like it normally would!

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SnowieSenior Contributor23 Aug 2023, 11:19 am AEST

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Sorry about your shift last night @outlander Sounds like it was a crazy time.

Might be good to have the night of hon, you can do something nice for yourself.

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outlanderSenior Contributor23 Aug 2023, 12:36 pm AEST

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its ok @Snowie i guess thats the joys of disability. you can try and predict how the day will go but sometimes there are curve balls!
i did go for a half hour walk though so im ok with that. im pretty fatigued so half hour is fine today.
the plumber turned up while i was out of course. but theyve gone to do another job and then will come back so id say theyll be here within the hour. then go pick up pop and back home. hopefully a the hot water system will be hot by the time night comes around for a decent shower!

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SnowieSenior Contributor23 Aug 2023, 12:51 pm AEST

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Work can go is so many different ways @outlander

Glad to hear you went for a walk, half hour is better than nothing.

I really hope you can have a hot shower tonight hon. Always makes me feel a little better within myself.

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outlanderSenior Contributor23 Aug 2023, 12:54 pm AEST

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me too @Snowie esp after a long day

what are you up to today

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SnowieSenior Contributor23 Aug 2023, 1:00 pm AEST

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Not doing much @outlander I know I should be doing things and trying to keep occupied but saying that and doing that is hard. If I didn't have to take the kids to school this morning, I think I would still be in bed. I have already written in my journal today. It was not good things.

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outlanderSenior Contributor23 Aug 2023, 1:03 pm AEST

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oh id love to still be in bed @Snowie the weather isnt overly pleasent here.
im sorry there isnt much good in your journal at the moment
does journalling help sort out your thoughts even a little?

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outlanderSenior Contributor23 Aug 2023, 1:09 pm AEST

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yay the plumbers are here just in time so hopefully across the next hour the new system will be installed and can give it a couple of hours to get the new system nice and hot. i dont envy their job though thats for sure. those systems are so heavy the poor guys have to lug it up my back stairs

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