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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor

Re: not coping

i make lists too but they usually consist of all the house work i need to try and catch up on @Snowie i have to keep forcing myself to do it but i dont really get through much except the washing or dishes but only some days or every couple of days

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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Even cleaning the house can be tedious @outlander I try and keep up with it but struggle. The only thing I really keep up with is the clothes washing. I kind of have to with the kids school uniforms.

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tymeModerator

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Makes sense @Snowie . I make sure all the things on the list are achievable 🙂 Sometimes, I put things on the list that I've already achieved. I have to set myself up for success.

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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I like the idea of putting things on the list I have already done @tyme That way I could at least accomplish something for the day. With two teenagers, washing clothes would be on the list almost every day!!

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tymeModerator

Re: not coping

Let's practice self-talk for your situation @outlander :

Positive self-talk:

Negative self-talk:

Technical self-talk:

Answer these for yourself. No need to share if you don't want to.

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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The idea of putting the stuff you’ve already done is a good one @Snowie @tyme


@tyme I can think of the first 2 but I can’t think for the third one. Like I know what steps to do sort of thing

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outlanderSenior Contributor

Re: not coping

@tyme

negative self talk: its hard so it must be the wrong decision

positive self talk: it might seem hard right for a while but in the longer term it will get easier

im not sure on the third one

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tymeModerator

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Maybe technical and be something like "It will take XXX time to get used to it, and then it will get easier"? @outlander

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outlanderSenior Contributor

Re: not coping

yeah maybe @tyme i dont really know.

everything feels hard and like all the responsibility is on me all the time because no one else wants to step up. it just feels like alot

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tymeModerator

Re: not coping

At the same time, if they don't have you, someone else WILL have to step-up @outlander . Hence, look after yourself first.

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