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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor12 July 2023, 5:51 pm AEST

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ive taken to having some walks on the beach @Jynx i have been able to lately because of a surgery but ive been cleared to go walking more now so i think ill be ready to get back on the beach again soon. wehave some really nice weather forecast here so i hope to be able to get there across the next couple of days for a workout

i dont think ill have no motivation i secretly really want this job if i can meet their expectations. but i tend to get high hopes and then struggle with the downfall of it not pulling through.

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JynxModerator12 July 2023, 6:02 pm AEST

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@outlander Oh so lovely! I don't have any decent beaches nearby, but grew up going all the time with family. It's got a special place in my heart 😊

Mm disappointment is a tough thing to sit with for sure. Maybe, regardless of what news you get, you could plan something to treat yourself? If you get it, it's a reward, if you don't, it's a comfort!

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outlanderSenior Contributor12 July 2023, 6:09 pm AEST

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im lucky in the sense i have the best of every setting @Jynx im both near semi rural type areas, city areas or not far from them, beaches and nature reserves so i am lucky i can really choose all sorts of scenery

i like the idea of treating myself regardless of the news. if this one falls through then theres another job im looking at applying for but i get abit overwhelmed knowing ive applied for to many things. i ahve a job currently but im looking to earn more and also branch out more. the second job isnt as rewarding or not really what im after but it would be a start so its an alright alternative if i dont get the initial one

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JynxModerator12 July 2023, 6:22 pm AEST

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Aww so lush @outlander! I'm Melbourne based so anywhere lush is always a bit of a drive. There's a few spots relatively close to me though, and Melbourne has some pretty decent nature reserves, so luckily I'm not starved for choice. Love me some nature!

A foot in the door is still progress hey, even if it's not your preference. And who knows, the second option might still be pretty good - workplace culture is a huge factor so if it has good vibes, I reckon it'll be good regardless of the nature of the work.

And heck yesss treat yo self!!

I don't know if you've seen Parks & Rec but this is the message!!

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Shaz51Senior Contributor12 July 2023, 6:41 pm AEST

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Hugs @outlander ❤️

Hello @Jynx 😄

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JynxModerator12 July 2023, 6:45 pm AEST

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@Shaz51! Hello 😁

How you doing this fine Wednesday?

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outlanderSenior Contributor12 July 2023, 6:53 pm AEST

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thats true, workplace can make a big difference to anyone. its ok where i work. i have some nice people around me where i am thats probably one of the reasons i have stayed for a while. its not run very well but the workers are good and ive met some nice people @Jynx

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outlanderSenior Contributor12 July 2023, 6:54 pm AEST