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Something’s not right

not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor20 Mar 2023, 10:33 am AEDT

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@Snowie

im not working a shift today but have pop all day, doing school runs, trying to catch up with some studying and doing the horses so even though its a day off its not really. i did sleep for the last close to 13 hours though since not sleeping after night shift.
have a house inspection on wednesday but i done a massive bulk of cleaning yesterday and day before so i can just have the kitchen cleaned and the floors vaccumed/bed made sort of thing for wednesday morning.
just had someone come in to do the lawns for me as well

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SnowieSenior Contributor20 Mar 2023, 10:43 am AEDT

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oh dear @outlander That doesn't sound like a day off to me hon.

I am glad you got some sleep, you certainly must have needed it.

It also sounds like you have some huge days coming up too. I hope you are able to get some down time for yourself hon, and some time to yourself. However, with so much in your basket I know that probably won't happen.

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outlanderSenior Contributor20 Mar 2023, 10:58 am AEDT

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my days off are never days off @Snowie ive always got things to do on my days off

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SnowieSenior Contributor20 Mar 2023, 11:09 am AEDT

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You certainly do @outlander You have so many responsibilities on such young shoulders.

I worry that you have so much on that you have no down time for yourself.

I hope that even the littlest of brief moments can give you some down time hon.

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outlanderSenior Contributor20 Mar 2023, 11:37 am AEDT

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its always hard to find down time @Snowie
pops going out for 2 hours today so im planning on watching a movie or something and leave cleaning etc till later on today

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SnowieSenior Contributor20 Mar 2023, 12:28 pm AEDT

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Sounds like a good plan @outlander

Some time to yourself and doing something nice for yourself is great. The cleaning can wait till another time.

How is your Pop going if you don't mind me asking? (Don't have to say anything if you don't want too)

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outlanderSenior Contributor20 Mar 2023, 1:02 pm AEDT

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he ok @Snowie his dementia is worsening and can see it progressing. i cant do anything about it though

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SnowieSenior Contributor20 Mar 2023, 1:11 pm AEDT

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No unfortunately you can't do anything about it @outlander

He is extremely lucky to have you hon and how much care you put into looking after him.

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outlanderSenior Contributor20 Mar 2023, 1:14 pm AEDT

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i hope next year to not be looking after him and start moving out @Snowie

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SnowieSenior Contributor20 Mar 2023, 1:18 pm AEDT

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That is totally acceptable @outlander

You have to start putting your needs first and living your life hon.

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