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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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makes for a perfect 18th birthday gift @Snowie

its ok, im just putting the same pressure that she puts on me. the requests im asking for arent a big deal and shes putting them off when there isnt a need to be so ive just added some pressure and have asked for a phone meeting tonight. shes promised to ahve the paperwork at least sorted tonight and if she doesnt get a chance tonight to call then she said when im back from my appts then i can call her. its being sorted before i head back to work on monday though

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SnowieSenior Contributor

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Does make a good 18th @outlander

We are thinking of giving my car to her and then I will get another one. Might be the best option for us.

I hope she calls tonight hon and you can work it out. I am glad it will be sorted out before you go back to work. At least that might help a little.

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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that might be nice for you too @Snowie you can get a new car yourself and D will have a car to drive that shes familiar with as well.

she probably wont call, shes not reliable unfortunatley but hopefully she does

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outlanderSenior Contributor

Re: not coping

my anxiety is running wild again tonight. i dont think i could handle another 3 panic attacks again in a row

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tymeModerator

Re: not coping

I'm here for you @outlander . It sounds like work is really making things hard.

If you don't mind me suggesting, and you breathe through it and work to control your breath? Focus on your breathing. Slow steady breaths. If you can exhale for double the time you inhale, you may find your heart rate lowering.

Holding your hand through this.

tyme

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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hi @tyme

ive been doing lots of breathing lately. i went and completed my first aid certificate today so i wasnt stuck at home and gave me something else to think about

im also worried about a couple of familiy members who have covid and are sick with it. i have health anxiety so not really being able to help or anything does make it really hard for me

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tymeModerator

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Sure does sound challenging @outlander .

Perhaps now it's about letting yourself just BE with whatever you are sitting with? Knowing that it's okay that you cannot change or fix everything?

I know people with a big heart often want to reach out any help everyone - often at their own expense.

Do you think you can be kind to yourself tonight and do something you enjoy?

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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yeah its been hard cause ive also been in isolation myself for the last 2 weeks and have been sick for the last month as well @tyme so it has been hard

ive just been watching amovie for now.

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tymeModerator

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Sure sounds challenging @outlander .

I'm glad you can watch a movie now. Even if you don't take it all in - it's okay 🙂 I find that sometimes, it's about engaging in some pastimes that do not need me to exert my brainpower, that helps 🙂

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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yeah its pretty much some background noise atm @tyme
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