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Something’s not right

not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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SnowieSenior Contributor04 Sept 2022, 4:20 pm AEST

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Going ok @outlander

Had a rough night so just trying to chill today.

Am going out for tea with Hubby and the kids for fathers day. Going with a few friends just locally so at least I don't have to cook!!

How are you going?

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outlanderSenior Contributor04 Sept 2022, 4:24 pm AEST

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bonus not having to cook or clean up! @Snowie nice night off.

im ok, feel really tired still and the headaches and body aches are hanging around but its not as bad as the last week so i hope that means covid is finally starting to leave.

been thinking alot about work the past couple of days but not really any closer to an answer

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SnowieSenior Contributor04 Sept 2022, 4:28 pm AEST

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Glad you are feeling a little better @outlander but covid still seems to have hit you hard.

You can only do what you feel is right about work hon. I understand it is a hard and big decision. I guess you just have to weigh up the pros and cons of each job. It really is a difficult decision to make.

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outlanderSenior Contributor04 Sept 2022, 4:51 pm AEST

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covid really did hit hard @Snowie and a gastro virus on top of that and a throat infection in the 2 weeks before i had covid so my poor immune system has been on overtime thats for sure

i hate that i cant get my head and heart on the same page when it comes to work.

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SnowieSenior Contributor04 Sept 2022, 5:00 pm AEST

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It must be hard trying to work out what to do with your job @outlander

Sometimes it is easier to stay with what we know rather than change. With saying that sometimes change is good for us.

Know doubt with time you will make the right decision for yourself, even though it may be a difficult decision.

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outlanderSenior Contributor04 Sept 2022, 5:02 pm AEST

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i have a feeling i will either leave or drop down to a lower position at some point @Snowie

im in a comfort zone and feel stuck because of my physical limitations but i guess there comes a point where i dont want to deal with it anymore

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SnowieSenior Contributor04 Sept 2022, 5:14 pm AEST

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Thats understandable hon @outlander

Perhaps just take it one day at a time. You need to decide what is best for you. Easier than it sounds!!

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outlanderSenior Contributor04 Sept 2022, 5:18 pm AEST

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yeah it pretty much is one day at a time @Snowie
its hard when there are some ok days. more often then not the bad days outweight the good ones

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SnowieSenior Contributor04 Sept 2022, 5:29 pm AEST

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It is sometimes like that @outlander

You have been through so much lately with everything going on that the bad days must feel like they are taking over.

Have you got much planned for this week coming?

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outlanderSenior Contributor04 Sept 2022, 5:36 pm AEST

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i have an online specialist phyisio tomorrow for pain education etc and wednesday i have my first aid renewal but apart from that nothing. im not going back to work till the weekend or maybe longer yet. @Snowie

what about you?

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