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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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In response to: not coping

JynxModerator02 July 2022, 8:18 pm AEST

Re: not coping

@outlander I remember one of my psychs telling me that anxiety is our protection system, but can become like a overly sensitive alarm system. So if it detects even the most minor of threats it'll start pinging us like there's a tiger lurking in the bushes. And because it is a base, survival instinct, we can't always just tell it 'hey, there's no tiger.' We have to show it, by taking those deep breaths, and engaging in things that help you feel safe - even if it's just getting on with your day. Cos sometimes (and this has certainly been my experience), if we pay too much attention to the anxiety as it bubbles up, it's like saying 'ooh yeah there might actually be something wrong, good move making me feel on edge/ready to run'

I dunno if this helps, but hopefully even just reminding yourself that these feelings will pass can help soothe in the meantime 💜