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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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Still waiting for my results. The dr rang me earlier but the scans and things rent there. Not sure where they have gone cause they were ready on Thursday and was told they had been sent to the drs. Wondering if theyve sent them to a wrong place or something.
Dr said he would ring me at some point today to discuss the results and he would ring the xray centre to get them sent again and ensure details are right.
Hopefully he rings soon, getting abit more nervous and running out of things to do now.

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Oh dammit @outlander .. didnt need that. 😳 Soon I hope.

No emails yet, so I am still here .. for now. Fearing its just borrowed time tho. Anyhow if you need to talk later, I hope I'm still around. 💕

As is @Sans911 I noticed. I hope things are settling for you. Take things slowly. 💖

Sherry

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Sans911Senior Contributor

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Here with you @outlander. Can you not give him the results you have? How frustrating

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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I said i have the results here i could read them out or if he gave me 2 minutes i could email it to him but he needs the scans to actually look at what they are saying
@Sans911 @Former-Member

I have the kids later today, one is at school so habe till 220 before i need to go anywhere and just quickly feeding the horses later.
Ive vaccumed the floor, done the dishes and 3 loads of washing. I got through a piece of toast but ive overdone it cause the pain and nausea has flared up even more again 🤦‍♀️
I also sent off a few emails that needed to be done.


Hopefully it wont be to much longer but itll be my luck i miss the call or ill be the last person of the day.


How are you guys going? Have much to do today?

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Unknown userMember

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No .. not much on for me today @outlander . Just nervously waiting. Hope you hear something back from GP soon. 💓

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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@Former-Member 💜💞


I just had a missed call from the my aged care assessor by 3 seconds 😖 ive sent her a text though as she said i can. She wants to arrange a time on the phone to talk to me and pop for the assessment. I dont think this is going to go down to well. Pop struggles on the phone and he doesnt like it when i get outside help so its just added to my worries.

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Sans911Senior Contributor

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Gosh you've been busy today lol Sis. So many frustrations for you though. I hope the GP rings soon.

Mmm.... I know how resistant your pop is to outside care. Can you not just do the assessment with her? Explain it to that he won't accept help if he has to partake in an assessment & it wont work. I mean, I know it's important for them to assess him, but they need to find a way to do it without antagonising him. That's so stressful for you.

Oh boy hun, it's a tough day for you. 💕 💕 💕

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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Ive been trying to keep distracted and so far even with minimal stuff being done my house is pretty clean still so im trying to keep up with it abit.

Yesterday i had to wash rewash all of the dishes -i mean everything from cutlery to cup and bowls and plates and saucepan because ive found that pops only rinsing not actually cleaning them.. sigh...


When the assessor rings next week ill chat to her first and just see if i can talk to her but i have a feeling they may actually want to talk to pop. If they do that there wont be any help because he seems to know how to down play everything. When that phone call ends i also know what im in for. @Sans911


I really just wish the gp would ring sis, its been a very long wait since friday


What have you been doing today? Do you have any zoom meetings or anything to attend? 💜💜💜

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Sans911Senior Contributor

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It's a nothing day here except waiting on the nurses to come and do my dressings. I need to have a shower and remove the abdominal dressings. Then it takes a while to get the adhesive off in the shower. The nurses ring about 30mins before they come, so that's when I shower. Can't do much more before that as wounds are left exposed.

I just completed a really long survey from some research I've been involved in before. It's a very large study, and I provided my saliva previously so they could use my DNA to study depression.

And I need to hang some washing out or it will smell. Just not motivated at all. I feel really bad about it, but I also just do t care either. Mr A is at the end of the bed fast asleep. He's been outside for a little while earlier.

@outlander

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That sounds like really interesting research to be involved in @Sans911

Been a nothing kind of day here too, as I still await my fate. Trying to keep busy, otherwise I wont cope with the anxiety over it. Its weighing heavily right now.

So I have swapped summer quilts for winter doonas here this morning. And a load of bedding is now on the line, blowing in the breeze. Cool night last night 6C, was a reminder that it was time.

Now Mr Sherry snoozing, so Holly and I taking a break too ... under the doona of course. 😀🐶

Hmm @outlander ... I think you were heading out about now. Hope you dont miss that GP call. 💜

Sherry 💖

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