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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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Sans911Senior Contributor13 Nov 2021, 12:45 am AEDT

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What comes out of a human is a lot less than a horse @outlander lol!!

You do get used to some things, smells, etc. Although most nurses have one or more no goes. Mine is spit, and a few other unmentionables.

I think this might be an OK start for you. You have to start somewhere hun. And sometimes you have to jump in feet first and hope it works out. What's the worst that can happen to you?

@outlander

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outlanderSenior Contributor13 Nov 2021, 1:19 am AEDT

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Yeah i guess so @Sans911 waa hoping to get out if caring but may need to use it for now till i gef sime savings back and bills paid off more

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NatureLoverSenior Contributor13 Nov 2021, 6:40 am AEDT

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Hi @outlander , have I missed something? Are you not the carer for your Pop any more?

I can see you've had enough of caring role, plus you need a job where you're not on your feet all the time. What about a Peer Mental Health Worker?

Either way, I hope it works out best for you about this job interview today...

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Sans911Senior Contributor13 Nov 2021, 3:14 pm AEDT

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Thinking of you today @outlander and how you went with the interview. Hugs

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SnowieSenior Contributor13 Nov 2021, 5:40 pm AEDT

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@Sans911 @outlander 💜💜💜

Lots of love to you both

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outlanderSenior Contributor13 Nov 2021, 6:17 pm AEDT

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Hi @NatureLover

no im stil a carer for pop but i need another job as well. i need to try and get out more besides looking after pop and with my new medical condition its really expensive and i cant afford it even with that little bit extra with the horses. now that its more summer months no one really needs me with the horses so that jobs non existent now except for some here and there.

some good news though i guess @Sans911 @Snowie @NatureLover @Eve7 @Emelia8 and all who might be following along.
i did get the job, i will be starting next week to see how i go and if i want to continue with it

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SnowieSenior Contributor13 Nov 2021, 6:20 pm AEDT

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Well done on getting the job @outlander You should be so proud of yourself.

How has your day been?

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Eve7Senior Contributor13 Nov 2021, 6:21 pm AEDT

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Congratulations @outlander ! I am happy for you as it means you have proved you are capable of selling yourself at an interview which isn't easy. I hope the job is a good fit for you and a stepping stone to a better future.

Lots of love

❤💛💚🧡💙

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outlanderSenior Contributor13 Nov 2021, 6:33 pm AEDT

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thanks @Eve7 @Snowie
working in disability but will see how that goes as i dont really want to work in the industry anymore not even for pop but might be different as its different setting and stuff and not living and breathing pop or the horses or the kids anymore.

i just feel so flat though. didnt show in the interview at least but geez i just feel so flat and unmotivated to do anything

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Emelia8Senior Contributor13 Nov 2021, 6:39 pm AEDT

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Ahhhh well done @outlander 🎉

You will do fine, you clearly have the necessary skills and experience.

I hope this new job proves to be of dual benefit .... 1. Takes some of the pressure off your financial situation, and 2. Acts as a stepping stone to a new career for you.

Something to celebrate. Proud of you L'il One. 😄💖

Emelia

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