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not coping

outlanderSenior Contributor04 Aug 2017, 8:11 pm AEST

not coping

im not coping

i cant handle all of these things

besides my mental health deteriorating so dramatically, and my physicall health floating up the creek

and now within the past few hours

my great grandmother now is in a nursing home and they dont know how long she has left and to make thigns worse i think i have to put my beleoved horse down.

we just had vets out and spend the last 4 hours trying to save my horse. its been 2 hours and went back to check on her and its not looking good.

not good at all 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞 😞

i dont know what to do or how to feel, im a complete mess 😞

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Sophia1Senior Contributor20 Oct 2021, 3:05 pm AEDT

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Hello @outlander

Stronger pain relief does cause fog brain.

I experienced that.

Well done on the 2 high distinctions.

Did you have your operation?

I am sorry ..

my mind will not allow me to read back too far on long threads..

take care

if not online now

I look out for your response next time.

I need to move as my back has stiffened up.

💜

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SnowieSenior Contributor20 Oct 2021, 4:04 pm AEDT

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@outlander 💕💕💕

@Sans911 💜💜💜

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NatureLoverSenior Contributor21 Oct 2021, 8:13 am AEDT

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@outlander any news from the doctor/s?

I'm really sorry you've got brain fog from the increased pain meds 😞 That can't be helping your study.

Thinking of you and sending hugs 💙

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outlanderSenior Contributor21 Oct 2021, 11:17 pm AEDT

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thank you @Sophia1 @Snowie @Eve7 @Sans911 and everyone following along.

unfortunatly i have only slept an hour in the last 48hours. i was in emergency for quite a while and my foot injury in unfortunatly even more severe then anticipated. i have now had to take 2-3 weeks off the horses but thats about to put a massive financial strain on me.
i have to be on crutches and stay off my foot and wear special orthotic shoes till i see the specialist in 3 weeks where theyll determine what other treatments i can try or whether the best option will be surgery. either way im having to be off my feet for 3 weeks now and very minimal activity. the crutches are already starting to brusie me so need to see what i can do about that.

im struggling to study but since i dont have much else to do perhaps i might be able to now once i get a decent sleep in tonight.

my routine is very out of whack atm, usually i would spend a few hours working with the horses or even just being there but i havent been there in 3 days already

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Sans911Senior Contributor21 Oct 2021, 11:55 pm AEDT

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@outlander 💖💖💖💖💖

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Eve7Senior Contributor22 Oct 2021, 12:25 am AEDT

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I am so sorry @outlander that this is happening to you.

Sending lots more love

💜💜💜💜💜

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Sophia1Senior Contributor22 Oct 2021, 10:13 am AEDT

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my dear @outlander

that is not how you are meant to celebrate your birthday......

people normally end up in that state after overdoing birthday celebrations ....

find that crocheting...art work....re watch outlander series...read the book..

time to be only for outlander now...

everything else around you might just have to fall apart so others start learning the hard way..

have a good cry....much pent up emotion..

I am crying with you...if that helps...

I too have had enough and overdone the treading on eggshells..

mesmerising

this was so heavy...

I got some help this time instead of madly overdoing it myself...

sound familiar??

listen to me advising you...laugh with me at that one..

we need some good jokes for you..

not from me I get them wrong..

I will send out a message of help..

@Eve7 @Sans911 @NatureLover @Snowie @Appleblossom @Shaz51 @BlueBay @Former-Member @Emelia8 @Zoe7 @Adge @Jacques @Former-Member @cloudcore

would you mind sending a joke or a funny cartoon to outlander as her birthday party literally crashed and it would be lovely for her to have something lighthearted to read as she has been in emergency and now having to be on crutches..rest her foot for next 3 weeks..

(read her previous post)

Thanking you in advance.

Sophia

Here is my effort dear outlander

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outlanderSenior Contributor22 Oct 2021, 11:05 am AEDT

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Thank you @Sophia1

its sad that i got to that point but the pain, the dr basically throwing her hands up not knowing what to do and other factors to do with my foot were also making me suicidal. i really felt i needed some answers or just something i wasnt really sure at that point. its not good news but at least i was seen and i have answers and have some management plan for now. crutches are so hard and im already getting brusing from them so im trying to work out what to do. im basically just sitting around doing nothing and its hard for me to do.

i didnt really celebrate my birthday. i got sent some flowers though so that was nice. pop doesnt remember it and everyone else was at work.
ive just went and ordered some new dvds and the latest season of outlander as well so i can watch those soon.
my sisters bene trying to be patient waiting for me to finish her crochet blanket for the last few months but ive been so busy or tired i havent done as much as id hoped so now might be a good time to try and get a fair whack done as well as some study.

im still struggling with the motivation to study though and the ability to concentrate as well.

thanks for the water feature too its quite pretty, both of them you shared with me actually. theyre both nice. and the joke memes too. Thank you xo

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outlanderSenior Contributor22 Oct 2021, 11:06 am AEDT

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@Eve7 @Sans911

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor22 Oct 2021, 11:34 am AEDT

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Ooh @outlander

Gentle Gentle

party time ought to be fun.

I am not good with jokes either as they often fall flat and are a bit dorky. Of course I loved @Sophia1 cartoon about the cat sitting on Schubert's Unfinished work.

I chose a collection of silly jokes. You may have heard them before.

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