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Good morning @outlander @Eve7 @Anastasia @Shaz51 @Faith-and-Hope @Sans911

Wishing you all a good day

Lots of love and hugs 💕💕💕💕💕

Morning @outlander @Eve7 @Anastasia @Shaz51 @Faith-and-Hope @Sans911 and anyone else.

Wishing you all a good day.

Stay warm everyone.

Lots and lots of love and hugs to you all 💕💕💕💕

Hey sweetheart @Sans911

Things are going ok. At least I still have supports. Hopefully with lockdown ending I can see them in person again soon.

How are you going sis?

I hear you @outlander

I feel guilty leaving the house to do things for myself too. But you know what, we need to. Its self care sweety and it will make you a better carer and have more to give. Its kind of like a recharge of your own batteries. Perhaps try telling yourself that to help alleviate the guilt?

Love and hugs x

@outlander I find guilt a wasted emotion most of the time. I know that doesn't help you much but it really is about looking after yourself. Being in the moment, enjoying what you are doing and not letting the thoughts of others in in those moments is key. It does take practice though - bit by bit doing things for short amounts of time and shutting out the world around you whilst you do it ...and extending that time the more proficient you get at it. I used to feel as though I should be doing something rather than snuggling with fur babies (as an example) - now I make time to snuggle with them and feel their love and comfort as I do that. It is about finding the things that you love and allowing yourself to do those things. Sometimes the things we used to do have added emotions around them because of past experiences so maybe changing it up and finding one or two different things with no emotions attached to them would help. Then allow yourself time to do those things - preferably away from all those experiences that have negativity attached to them for you. When we find that we cannot do the things we used to love because of negative emotions then it is time to find alternatives. Sometimes a change is necessary to revitalise ourselves otherwise we stay stuck in the same old, same old and keep repeating what doesn't work and therefore do not grow.

I hear you @outlander and sometimes I feel guilty if I start to enjoy something and think I shouldn’t spend my H’s hard earned $$ when he’s no longer here but we have to change our mindset somehow and believe we do deserve to do enjoyable activities.

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