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Coming to terms with reality

eudemonismSenior Contributor02 Aug 2017, 7:01 pm AEST

Coming to terms with reality

Hi Readers, i am suffering from "mental health issues" and it is an ongoing, daily battle. I am pretty much constantly wrestling with the thoughts going on in my mind. And my psychical life seems too be suffering for it. (There is a huge difference between physical and mental ) something is definitely not right! So each day I'm waking up and going about my routine. And over the last few days, weeks and months. I have been noticing changes in my mentality toward myself, others and life. And some questions such as, what is my life about? And what should my objectives be? Have arisen... of course like we all are, I'm subject too making decisions... and there has been the same options in front of me time and time again for months on end. And it becomes rather draining and mundane. And i feel myself going around in circles like something simple just ain't connecting.

I enjoy writing, art, music. And peace of mind... walking, reading, meditation. Taking care of myself. Socialising. Etcetera. Getting ahead, getting in front. Planning, dreaming and so on. And do my best to look after myself. While accepting that it can only ever be so much.

But there just something not quite right. And I'm suffering for it on a daily basis. And I'm tired and fed up with going through the same stuff everyday. And in all honesty. Alot of my suffering comes from prospective and thought processes.

Does anyone wanna talk with me about some things that might help? In particular dealing with people no matter who they are. Can be very stressful and cause lots of procrastinating about pros and cons. In particularly people who i think about reaching out to for support. Because of dilemmas dramas and social dynamics. And picking up on things that "aint really happening" "gut feelings type of stuff " "intuition" that type of thing. And enjoying time with people is great! I just tend to be overly preoccupied with symptoms to be worried about socialising sometimes "Symptoms which involves others"

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Unknown userMember06 Sept 2017, 2:04 pm AEST

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@eudemonism

thank you from the bottom of my heart

I know that you are struggling today.....yet you still take time to reply....respond with empathy and compassion

I could ask for no more or expect anymore

when you say that is all you feel capable of doing...you also should not ask any more of yourself..how you have responded is more than enough

I just want to remind you of a previous post when you said that you were unsure what friendship entailed...not in those words but that was the meaning I took

your response is a sign of true friendship...compassion and empathy towards another

friendship takes many forms and is a gift both for the receiver and the giver

thank you...your response has helped me

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Unknown userMember06 Sept 2017, 2:10 pm AEST

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Yes spot on @eudemonism

that is the answer in a nutshell

the author knows of what he or she writes...one hopes...however interpretation of a reader is influenced by the beliefs...feelings....experiences of that person. a whole new meaning can be given to the original writing.

a perfect example would be for someone to read the above and think what on earth is she talking about laugh.

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eudemonismSenior Contributor06 Sept 2017, 3:09 pm AEST

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Sometimes the individual knows exactly what is best for themselves @Former-Member does that make sense? And sometimes advice and opinions is no more then beneficial for the person giving it. But its a good distraction none the less.

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AdekSenior Contributor06 Sept 2017, 3:09 pm AEST

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Hehehe...@mohill...i'm really laughing on that last note and failed again to be a silent reader. Failed also the contemplated walk with my ex by the lake and ended up stucked in my room reading silently your posts @Former-Member and @eudemonism 's and @Former-Member 's and @Appleblossom 's and Vanessa 's. I haven't been out of the house since Sunday afternoon. Think am gonna burst tomorrow when i see my therapist

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eudemonismSenior Contributor06 Sept 2017, 3:09 pm AEST

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How do you know im havinga bad day @Former-Member?

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eudemonismSenior Contributor06 Sept 2017, 3:21 pm AEST

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With you @Former-Member... I've noticed you like to be the one who's always in a position to help and give advice. And your words come across as... almost from a superior level of coping through life...

Then there's another side that talks about issues and problems your dealing with. But doesn't like being given advice from a superior level in return. So you resort to giving advice again.

I'm not saying it hasn't been helpful to have you read about my problems, issues and day to day struggles. And then in return try to counteract it with consoling, counselling, asking triggered questions and guidance. But i think a more well rounded approach with is does with humility would be best.

Sorry if this shocks you

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eudemonismSenior Contributor06 Sept 2017, 3:31 pm AEST

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Id like to know there is light at the end of the tunnel. And a way too make my journey there a little easier. But it is indeed not a perfect world we live in. Even if you tick all the boxes. Make all the right moves. And do everything you can. At the end of the day. It is probably going to be a roller coaster for everybody. And one thing that gets to me is... having people who feed from my problems, my sufferings, my despair, my lack of ability to provide myself with what I need and want, and my inability to properly fend for myself. Whether it be psychically, psychologically, emotionally or spiritually. Which gives them. Meaning, purpose, significance, strength, power and control. Because in actual fact! It's my hard work that provides them with this opportunity. But who indeed gets more out of the scenario?

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AdekSenior Contributor06 Sept 2017, 3:32 pm AEST

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But don't worry..i have been productive at home. There's a leakage at the kitchen wash basin which must have taken place sometime so yesterday was a whole day cleaning for me..the pots and pans and kitchen lower cabinets all affected. Managed to finish making kimchi last night at almost midnight and this morning did an hour of yoga stretching cuz the heavy work yesterday giving me muscle spasms here and there.

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AdekSenior Contributor06 Sept 2017, 3:46 pm AEST

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@eudemonism there's a saying whatever good or bad we spread around us is like throwing a ball on a wall...it will bounce back somehow or rather. What you give...u get back...MORE. So, what we share and our hard work will somehow reach us back...doubled..if not now maybe later. Here or hereafter. This is what i believe..

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Unknown userMember06 Sept 2017, 3:47 pm AEST

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@eudemonism

thank you for your honesty

I have always tried to respond from my heart

I too have had symptoms of mental illness for most of my life

I try to respond to someone who is struggling with encouragement from my own life learnings.

I had no idea that I was coming across as superior

I apologise to you as I would not wish this on anyone.

I actually thought that I was helping. I didnt realise that I was in fact doing the opposite.

I take back about what I said to all of you taking others feelings into consideration. I have perhaps caused more harm than good.

my deepest apologies to all of you and any who read this thread moving forward.

I can if you wish request all of my responses to be removed to further avoid any harm to anyone

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