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Coming to terms with reality

Coming to terms with reality

Hi Readers, i am suffering from "mental health issues" and it is an ongoing, daily battle. I am pretty much constantly wrestling with the thoughts going on in my mind. And my psychical life seems too be suffering for it. (There is a huge difference between physical and mental ) something is definitely not right! So each day I'm waking up and going about my routine. And over the last few days, weeks and months. I have been noticing changes in my mentality toward myself, others and life. And some questions such as, what is my life about? And what should my objectives be? Have arisen... of course like we all are, I'm subject too making decisions... and there has been the same options in front of me time and time again for months on end. And it becomes rather draining and mundane. And i feel myself going around in circles like something simple just ain't connecting.

I enjoy writing, art, music. And peace of mind... walking, reading, meditation. Taking care of myself. Socialising. Etcetera. Getting ahead, getting in front. Planning, dreaming and so on. And do my best to look after myself. While accepting that it can only ever be so much.

But there just something not quite right. And I'm suffering for it on a daily basis. And I'm tired and fed up with going through the same stuff everyday. And in all honesty. Alot of my suffering comes from prospective and thought processes.

Does anyone wanna talk with me about some things that might help? In particular dealing with people no matter who they are. Can be very stressful and cause lots of procrastinating about pros and cons. In particularly people who i think about reaching out to for support. Because of dilemmas dramas and social dynamics. And picking up on things that "aint really happening" "gut feelings type of stuff " "intuition" that type of thing. And enjoying time with people is great! I just tend to be overly preoccupied with symptoms to be worried about socialising sometimes "Symptoms which involves others"

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@Sophia1 I'm very tired and worn out from the day to day challenges and monotony of life... there seems to be very little joy to live for any more...

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hello @eudemonism

You sound weary reading in between the lines..

When you have so many conversations going on in your mind that can be more draining than physical movement..

I do not have anywhere near the ordeals that you have written about..

I do have times where my mind will not switch off...that is anxiety with me..

I try very hard to focus on my breathing..I have noticed I actually hold my breath when I am anxious...or should I say a psychologist and physiotherapist have noticed this about me..

Sometimes remembering to breathe works other times it does not...then I try distraction...

talking to someone on the telephone is also good...grounds me..especially if I talk about them..

For now you are tired...have a rest if you can...tell your busy mind that you are resting and focussing on that only for a while....then reassess how you feel...

take care

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@eudemonism Eude I couldn't have put it better myself . The thing is that no one is perfect and we all make mistakes. I just try not to make the same mistakes twice although that is hard when mi is involved .... for me anyway. My pdoc once said to me that no one will understand what I have done becauase they will not understand the situation as they have not walked in my shoes with my son and that is true. If I am judged badly well that is on them not me. I just keep silent and move forward as best I can which is why I picked my avatar. It is exactly how I am going to live my life from now on.

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@Sophia1 Hi Sophie1 yes I have a rabbit :). He has a strong personality too lol. Animals rule the roost I think.

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hello @Bill16

oh how cute....your loving companion...

treasures aren't they...

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hello @Bunniekins @eudemonism@Bill16

love your response to Eude @Bunniekins

a rabbit they can be quite characters too I believe...

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@Sophia1 there is an awful lot of external factors which are contributing to my stress, my anxiety and my depression. In some sense, the help that's available has just become another contributing factor.
I'm disputing and arguing my case against these external contributing factors. And i just can't control or change them.
And on the other hand... i just cannot manage to work with them...
So basically, it leaves me 'between the devil and the deep blue sea '
Alot of this takes place within my mind...

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Yea @Bunniekins i seem to always be just one thought away from becoming extremely stressed, anxious or depressed. And for all intensive purposes; it appears that it's all being caused by external factors, which i cannot change or control-all i can do, is work with them...
And I'm just not capable of meeting the demands or expectations... so unfortunately, it seems I'm having to face the consequences...

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Lovely @Bill16 it looks like you got a nice place there? Looks very cosy...
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