Coming to terms with reality

Hi all 🙂

@eudemonism @Former-Member @Adek @Appleblossom @Shaz51

I was reading through the posts 'Coming to tems with reality' I started reading as I got curious. They say curiosity kills. I even do not like the sytems and many of the systems and what they are becoming. Yet, the reality I have to work within those systems to keep myself sane - as the forum is named 'Saneforum'' I do like the title 'lived expereinces forum' - this a reality.

@eudemonismyour posts have given me some new insight in to the mental health world. I am glad I came across your post. I am rather new to this forum. I find navigating through it rather challenging in turn gives me practice my patience.

I wish there was a way I could repley to a previous post rather than at the very end. I can't remember all I read so I have to respond in a general manner.

@Adekin one your post how you compared the terms were intersting. I will have to go and check again, I must remind my self.

@Former-MemberI hope you have heard from your son and he is keeping well. I have 2 kids.

I just want to let you guys know that I was fascinated and wish you all the best. You are doing great taking into consideration the challenges you are tackling each day.

I hope to be back here soon, Take care 🙂

About your post @eudemonism , I think they are all reasonable things to think about and to talk about as i did not reply yesterday as I was thinking about what you had written down

I found it very interesting @eudemonism and I find it hard to write down what i am thinking

Part of me was saying "WHY " all these things happen to me in the past 53 years and the other part of me was yelling back at me saying " WHY NOT ME ""

Hello @eudemonism @mohill @Adek @Appleblossom @A2Z

Hello everyone

I have not slept well for quite a few days and have pushed myself too hard

I struggled with people feeling agitated and irritable..easily wound up

last night wide awake with anxiety

Today I have been busy but felt emotional ..so many little things went wrong..the sun will rise again...I noticed how hard I was on myself..I had very high expectations

bottom line ...I am so good at dishing out advice to others yet don't even notice the signs of things being too much for myself

I understand the basis of ups and downs with trying so hard to improve life for myself and those important to me

yet I am still disappointed with myself

I want to be further down the road of recovery..again high expectations

do you think this might happen with you? A feeling of failure because something goes wrong? Expecting everything to run smoothly because I am working so hard at being better..leading a better quality of life? Is this how you feel?

I understand your frustration @eudemonism

self-medicating to help erase these feelings...feed negative thoughts

sadly alcohol..drugs do more damage ..perhaps provide escape briefly..

you talk about this openly and want to get out of the cycle..this is a good thing..

we must keep on believing in ourselves.. We are not just our diagnosis...we are human beings who want to have a quality of life..

we are here talking..working on this principle

Hello @A2Z

Glad you thought it worth reading.

I loved the thread title by @eudemonism because it is a process and necessary one for us all.

Yes @Former-Member I had one of those days on Monday, and the self whipping was on again, but I managed not to get too hooked up on negative self talk. The next 2 days were better.

I find it hard to recognise inner stuff and "name the game" or even "name the frame", but getting there.

I had an interesting talk to a friend today. Learning about friendship late in life, but always interested. Just took a while to peel back enough layers to be able to be known by another person and be active in the "knowing" of each other.

hello @Appleblossom

I had an interesting talk to a friend today. Learning about friendship late in life, but always interested. Just took a while to peel back enough layers to be able to be known by another person and be active in the "knowing" of each other.

Lovely to hear that you are learning more about friendship

Peeling back layers....feeling safe with another.....building trust....opnly needing to share parts of yourself...nothing that makes you vulnerable

friendship has nothing to do with age....listening and learning....

hello @eudemonism @Adek @Appleblossom @Shaz51 @A2Z

I just spent ages writing an epic response to you all

is now in cyberspace somewhere ...zooming about with the rest of my computer oopsies

will get back to you all later

have to get off this dreaded machine

take care all

hello @Adek

just read your post

how beautiful....such a spiritual gift

I love the fact that you are so proud of the anniversary of independence for your country

very exciting times and to be able to be a part of the celebrations...very heartwarming

thank you for your compassion

back again....have been outside in the glorious sun working in the garden...pruning and weeding

definitely helps lift my mood....thoughts still flash through mind...working on observing them and sorting out what I need to think more about and what is just negative programmed thinking...a never ending work in progress

this programmed thinking of course applies to everyone regardless of their mental health...I keep on reminding myself this and that tends to take a huge pressure off providing relief for any lingering anxiety

@eudemonism I wrote a lengthy response to you earlier this morning and it disappeared into cyberspace..

Well my friend you have nothing to apologise for on this forum....you have said nothing upsetting or patronising I think you might have mentioned that before

there are no judgements here either....we all have our own issues...our own ways of responding unique to every single human being

I think that you are still progressing...I certainly read that in between the lines...that is a good point that you have raised though because often we cannot see this ourselves...we are so bogged down trying to deal with every thought that comes into our heads...I think the expression is can't see the wood for the trees

I like your mindset of putting healthy food into your body,,,,,exercising....spending time with your dog who can give you so much love....pets are amazing..your list of future purchases that can be broken down into achievable goals

your listening to your thoughts and working through them...that takes great courage and strength as well as insight...you are doing so much better than you think

a desire to be a writer and musician....wow.....you must be good at journalling then....Vanessa wrote down only positive stuff I think from memory....a good idea..I have done journalling in the past and tended to write down the stuff that was bothering me....upsetting me which also helped....then I could compare at a later time...problem with that though was it also depressed me so would have been better if I wrote it down to get it out of my head and then tore it up when I finished...what are your thoughts on journalling?

hope that you have had a resourceful and relaxing day

will speak again