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Coming to terms with reality

Coming to terms with reality

Hi Readers, i am suffering from "mental health issues" and it is an ongoing, daily battle. I am pretty much constantly wrestling with the thoughts going on in my mind. And my psychical life seems too be suffering for it. (There is a huge difference between physical and mental ) something is definitely not right! So each day I'm waking up and going about my routine. And over the last few days, weeks and months. I have been noticing changes in my mentality toward myself, others and life. And some questions such as, what is my life about? And what should my objectives be? Have arisen... of course like we all are, I'm subject too making decisions... and there has been the same options in front of me time and time again for months on end. And it becomes rather draining and mundane. And i feel myself going around in circles like something simple just ain't connecting.

I enjoy writing, art, music. And peace of mind... walking, reading, meditation. Taking care of myself. Socialising. Etcetera. Getting ahead, getting in front. Planning, dreaming and so on. And do my best to look after myself. While accepting that it can only ever be so much.

But there just something not quite right. And I'm suffering for it on a daily basis. And I'm tired and fed up with going through the same stuff everyday. And in all honesty. Alot of my suffering comes from prospective and thought processes.

Does anyone wanna talk with me about some things that might help? In particular dealing with people no matter who they are. Can be very stressful and cause lots of procrastinating about pros and cons. In particularly people who i think about reaching out to for support. Because of dilemmas dramas and social dynamics. And picking up on things that "aint really happening" "gut feelings type of stuff " "intuition" that type of thing. And enjoying time with people is great! I just tend to be overly preoccupied with symptoms to be worried about socialising sometimes "Symptoms which involves others"

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Re: Sharing the wisdom within

thank you @eudemonism

that is a lovely message for me to receive when logging on....

you are coming across as more at peace today....passing that wish onto others is a very kind, caring gesture...

I have just finished cleaning out the fridge....

doing some much need mundane washing now...

I hate housework...

take care

Sophia

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@Sophia1 OK

I think I have reduced my care factor about housework, as I figured I was doing it out of what I thought others expected from me / expected me to be & in fear of judgement being the repercussion of this expectation when not met - which I feared.

I do the basic chores and housework as I please, and do consider my hygiene and health. But definitely not as pedantic with chores and housework as I used to be. It don't really play a role in my spiritual or mental well being.

Hoodlum my new member to the family is sleeping peacefully...

Eude

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hello @eudemonism

spot on with the priorities of housework....expectations from others has always been a big thing with me...now I only worry about this if people are coming for a visit...

if they are just dropping in...well accept that it is our home and we live in it thinking...

you are right in saying it definitely does not play a part in your spiritual or mental well being...

health and hygiene yes...

a new member to the family....Hoodlum...a new pet? dog? cat?

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@Sophia1 It's a python... And I'm having doubts and fears about it... I don't think I really knew what I was getting myself into...

You know what I mean?

Eude

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@Sophia1 I suppose there is
risk involved with everything we do...

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Hello @eudemonism

Actually my "family member" always wanted a pet snake when he was younger...

I always said no...

I am petrified of them...

I can't watch them in a film or look at them at the zoo even...

Perhaps you could have a word with the vet whom you bought it from....

or ask others on here if they know much about having one as a pet....

sorry I'm not much help in that area...

Sophia

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@Sophia1Yea I'm the same I've always wanted one. But considered what others thought of it. More then myself and what I thought.

What are you honest thoughts about me keeping a python?

I figure it will help me face and deal with all of my fears...

Eude

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@Sophia1 did someone sleep in this morning? 😀

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@eudemonism wrote:
@Sophia1I seen the doctor today and we organized an appointment to see a new psychiatrist. I'm really optimistic about this. I've got good feelings about this one.

I've finally committed to a doctor I can trust. And with each appointment I'm becoming more comfortable to be open and honest. So we can make as much ground on my illness as possible.

Another thing... I need to be honest and promptly admit when and where I'm wrong. Even though I'm 32 years old. The odd tantrum still does occur. My bad. Nobody else's fault.

Eude

Hello @eudemonism

I have not been doing too well...hence missed a couple of days on the forums I think...

I wanted to respond to this post particularly...

This is an opportunity for moving forward out of the familiar pattern that your life had taken as you have described so often..

The fact that you have found a doctor who you can trust yourself is huge...That is the hardest part in my eyes...I have had to change doctors several times because of their apathy...

Also you have brought about this change yourself which is a good sign that you are on the road for improvement of your life....

He has also referred you to a new psychiatrist ...another huge plus....you get to start from the beginning and explain that you have felt for so long that noone was listening to you...

There will be hard work ahead...that is the nature of our mind unwellness....committing to that work is the answer for obtaining a new and better life...

I am very proud of you Eude...

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@eudemonism wrote:

@Sophia1Yea I'm the same I've always wanted one. But considered what others thought of it. More then myself and what I thought.

What are you honest thoughts about me keeping a python?

I figure it will help me face and deal with all of my fears...

Eude


Hello @eudemonism

I am probably the wrong person to be asking this question...

I am terrified of snakes....

Perhaps ask yourself the question..." why have you always wanted one?'...the thrill of having a pet that has the potential to be dangerous?" "the fact that there are many people who are frightened of them?" or "do they just intrigue you?"

as for the snake's point of view laugh....I will probably get shouted down by others reading for saying this...

I personally do not like to see them living in tanks where they can hardly move...their natural habitat allows them freedom..I am the same with fish....birds....bearded dragons..

I personally don't like the fact that large animals are in zoos...I would prefer to see them in animal sanctuaries where they have freedom...

So...yes you are asking the wrong person laugh..

however...if you truly want one....let it roam around in one room freely occasionally away from your dog and cat...it might be beneficial for you as you mentioned...

ask others on here on some of the social threads...making order out of chaos is a good thread...

one other thing when my family member was about 14 I used to drop him off at his friend's place on the weekend about 30 minutes drive then pick him up later...his friend lived with his mum...he had a pet python...family member told me the story years later that friend had let the snake out about two years before and it had never been found...

I almost had a heart attack at the thought of driving there....

go with your intuition...

how much does it cost to feed as well?

Sophia

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