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Hi @Ant7 & @Owlunar,

sorry to hear about your back, @Owlunar. I used to always have a sore back until I started going to a myotherapist and now I am A-Ok. It turns out all my back problems were muscular, all along. I never even knew- I just got used to putting up with a sore back and not doing anything about it.

Not to suggest that yours is the same problem, @Owlunar.

I have to do a lot of cooking today. I am very happy as I love to cook. I am cooking for a function at the local gallery. Just as a volunteer this time around, so not making any money, unfortunately.... but still it's good to contribute.

How are you two both doing?

@Owlunar, yes, it is also my understanding that any will can be challenged, marriage or no marriage. I also remember plenty of lawyers saying that the law treats married people and de-facto people (including gay couples) exactly the same already. But now there are people saying otherwise.... the law is so complex.

I think our culture treats people differently, though. Like if you are in a de-facto relationship and not married, a lot of people see it as only temporary. Which is funny, since 50% of marriages end in divorce!

Ho are you today @Ant7?

Hi @Sahara

When it comes to property settlements and wills the law can be an ass - but then - at times people are pretty stupid too - so like - ho hum - why the hell go to the expense of writing a complex will only to have someone challenge it? Even I think that's a good question - to have a sound will I mean

When people leave their wealth to charities rather than their children I think that is something to be questioned - but then - it's their business . But if their kids are honest and struggling why should the wealth be sent to the pets home or whatever? It seems really cruel when that happens

Whatever the relationship when it comes to a joint arrangement - that is legal marriage, de facto, gay - or anything else - ratification by law can only last as long as the couple are together - there was a lot of nastiness when my husband decided on divorce for the sake of sharing property - I can hardly believe how nasty it became and I had to be just as nasty to have my rights.

This sort of thing has to be the prime time for the thoughts that lie within to come out - and I guess the same takes place when de facto and gay marriages break up also. There is no time limit

I'm sorry your back aches - and glad the myotherapy helped - I am not sure what that is - I will have to look it up -

I have a complexd state of disorder in my spine - from L2/L3 to L5/S1 I have DDD - degenerative disc disease - and at L4/L5 and L5/S1 I have spinal cord canal stenosis - narrowing of the spinal cord canal - the pain is usually local - right down in the middle of my lower back - but the treatment works as long as I keep to it.

But the day before I left Sydney I took off walking thinking I was heading for the Harbour Bridge - and I got lost - which can be fun - and a taxi driver took me back to Circular Quay and there of course was the Bridge - but I had done the damage and the next day I travelled back to Melbourne starting out with an ordinary amount of pain. By the time I was home it was bad and it would have been easier had the locum doctor go here earlier - waiting 7 hours is ridiculous - I have got to the point of not trusting the locum doctors feeling it's better to wait - but then - it will take a while for my spine to settle after this trip

So yeah - when it comes to my spine and travelling I don't know what to do either - but I still want to travel - and I am not getting any younger. I know this is the flu season but a wait of 7 hours is ridiculous -

But I think I will still travel - I am thinking about my next trip already - it's Darwin or taking a plane to Canberra and a bus to Eden - when it comes to thinking about what to do it's good to have choices

Whatever the plan is - it is always good to have choices

Enjoy your cooking Sahara

Dec

@Sahara Hi I am well thanks for asking. How are you. I like cooking to but I am not very good at it. I think I am better at eating lol. Do you have the day off? I finished work this morning and now I am off untill Monday. I was going to go for a ride but a bit tide so I am struggling for motivation. Enjoy your cooking

Hi @Owlunar,

yeah, that is weird that people leave all their money to charity when they pass away, rather than to their own children. You have to wonder- why have kids if you don't intend to do something for them, as far finance? Perhaps they had kids and then later regretted it! They thought that the lost dogs home would appreciate it more, or something?

But then children don't ask to be born, either. So if you have the ability to do something for them, then I honestly think that you kind of should.

Although, having said that, I wouldn't mind if my own Dad didn't leave me anything.... It would be odd, but then life is odd, isn't it? Strange things happen all the time. You can't expect anything of life, or you will be sadly disappointed.

I remember a friend of a friend losing her Gran and my other friends talking about all the stuff she was fortunate enough to inherit and I found it really distasteful. Like they really were happy for her having her Gran die?? That's how it came accross. I know they didn't really mean it that way, but anyway.

I'm just raving now.

@Owlunar Hi how are you? I am sorry to hear about your back. That sounds terrible I hope you are feeling better. 7 hours is a long time to have to wate that is not very good i am sorry to hear that. I do hope you are on the improve

Hi @Ant7

You are right - it not good at all to have to wait a long time for the locum doctor - 7 hours - it's taking time to recover - I might have done better to have gone straight to bed rather than stay in the lounge because I might have gone to sleep - which I did watching TV

There have been times when I have fallen asleep waiting for the locum doctor - but always woken up before they got here

I mentioned this to my friend who is the Practice Manager where I go to the doctor - she gets a lot of complaints about this and I have wondered for years why this happens. Sometimes it is the flu season and yes - the doctors can have the flu too - and sometimes I am told it's because it's a long weekend - and I can't help sighing because I worked in admin for most of my working life and these issues are foreseeable

And that's enough of my ranting

My back does feel better today - still not perfect but then - that's pretty rare - but yes - I am gradually recovering

Dec

@Owlunar I am glad you are on the mend a little at least

Hi @Sahara

People can do weird things when someone in the family dies - or is dying

My mother had a major stroke after I saw her in one hospital - so she was in another when she was taking her time to pass - and to start with - my sister had never talked about dying with her - I had tried a couple of times before all of this - but my sister never went there - strange - but still

So it took Mum days to die and my sister sat there all the time and I went one day and felt like a ghoul eating her desert when my sister ate the main course - this was really strange

I could go on and on about the weirdness of it all - but I can say this - I wanted to ask something about Dad's funeral and my sister was enraged that I was trying to make it all about me - that stung - and after our mother died - wow - both funerals were all about her

You are right - people can really hurt people - and for what? And why? What could anyone gain from that?

Dec

Hi @Ant7

Thanks so much - I am on the mend but my back is aching so I will have to stop this soon and eat the meal I prepared last night but didn't get around to cooking

I was feeling tired and sleeping a lot but I am over that now and this is good

I hope you are okay

Dec