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Re: Learning about Relationship Boundaries

AppleblossomSenior Contributor17 July 2015, 9:58 pm AEST

Re: Learning about Relationship Boundaries

I get so tired of being strong and being positive and thinking of a new approach. I feel pull out positivity like a rabbit from a hat but that it can become false. I am now hypersentsitive and ambivalent about whether I should continue to post or withdraw.

I have had low self-talk and concentration poor.

My son has been the most loyal of all my family to me ..it worries me because he is vulnerable too.

Nobody else cares and I put a lot of effort into family events for decades.

I started swearing and calliing myself piece of dirt and other things like I am becoming a teenager.d .. but i dont want to have to be teenage boy all the time ..

I would like to have been useful

I have managed to get some help and am grateful, for what has worked.

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor22 Oct 2015, 12:40 am AEDT

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I used to hug everybody ... after I "learned" the importance of affection in therapy ... see no boundaries ... how to have emotionally healthy boundaries and still be inclusive ... that is ze question.

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MazaritaSenior Contributor22 Oct 2015, 12:57 am AEDT

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@Appleblossom At one stage I lost track of time of day too. I was sleeping in 4 hour blocks with just an hour or two awake in between. I don't remember how much time it was in months, could have been a year or more. One time I was asleep and heard the key in the front door and called out to my partner, 'have a good day'. Turns out he was just coming home from work, not just going, as I had thought. It was blackly funny for both of us.

Regarding hugs, I try to feel out at the time whether it feels right or not. Mostly it's something between friends for me.

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PeppiPattySenior Contributor22 Oct 2015, 12:57 am AEDT

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Golly @Former-Member

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MazaritaSenior Contributor22 Oct 2015, 1:02 am AEDT

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Well I've broken my midnight rule and I'm now on the night shift. I wish I was tired. It's hard to leave such a nice get-together tonight. I do like these times when there are a bunch of us online and chatting together.

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Unknown userMember22 Oct 2015, 1:04 am AEDT

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Oops probably shouldn't have written that about hugs I do hug my kids though and I'm not a cold person (lol in my own humble opinion!!) I just find it really hard to be touched or something or other maybe worse since my marriage ended... Like physical affection just can't be trusted or really meant for me... I don't really know.

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor22 Oct 2015, 1:06 am AEDT

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For a while I had a young piano teacher in my late 20s ... through all the deaths etc ... and she was a hug all her students ... very demonstrative type ... I also had seen "the hug" encouraged in primal therapy etc.. so when I started teaching I usually ended up being a little affectionate to adult students ... and cheery with school age kids and parents ... teens werent into hugs ...

I hugged my sibs too but it was often very desperate ...

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PeppiPattySenior Contributor22 Oct 2015, 1:09 am AEDT

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Since we are all saying nigh nigh
Does anyone know of the best steam mop to get ?

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor22 Oct 2015, 1:09 am AEDT

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Ok I am going to bed ... dont want to lead anybody astray ... virtual hugs all round

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor22 Oct 2015, 1:11 am AEDT

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nay @PeppiPatty

might upgrade when my refillable sponge one is too bad ... I have only a tiny tiled area.

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MazaritaSenior Contributor22 Oct 2015, 1:12 am AEDT

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@Former-Member You don't seem like a cold person at all. It's not surprising you don't feel like hugging people except virtually at this time. But I'll happily take and return your virtual hug.

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