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Dear @Former-Member ....

Your writings are not ramblings at all my friend. Neither are they too long, taking up our time. It is an important part of being heard to take the time, and sometimes that means column space, to put out there what it is important to express.

I have a thread on C-forum that I started here with, and there are many long posts over many pages, with very little response, I received "likes" occasionally, and a comment or two, sometimes a long post back, infrequently, but I think that is in part because our situation is a compound of differnent issues, creating a very large, complex issue overall.

Those who have wanted to read it, have. For others it will be too involved, and cause their heads to spin, as the lived experience of it is too foreign, or perhaps too triggering, to really begin a two way interaction, but that doesn't mean they dont care .... and they may read along occasionally to keep up with the thread of my journey "in shallower waters", so to speak.

There is also the case that they see a particular someone, or few someones keeping me company on the journey, and rather just read along that repeat the same sentiments as are already being offered, just communally engaging, not personally beyond their first connection to the thread, which then provides them with notifications.

And we have the option to turn off notifications from each thread. I have never turned off yours. You have been there for me, and I have known that I only needed to speak up more often in this thread, or with a greater amount of information, and you would be right there for me according to your capacity to in the moment.

While I don't want to speak for@Maggie ... she is perfectly able to speak for herself .... it gladdened my heart to see you had such close interaction with each other, and I expect that you weren't at all keeping her from other friends .... it was my impression she was intently interested and supportive of your friendship with each other, and this wasn't challenged or weakened in any way by her loving friendships with others. I think we all have the elastic ability to extend our boundaries to broaden our experiences, without taking away from our core friendships.

That is my perspective anyway, my friend. I would dearly love to see you continue here in the vein you have been, expressing your very complex and trying circumstances, much like me on my C-forum thread, and when and where you have the focus and energy, reaching out in love to others on their most frequented thread or threads.

Most importantly, take care of you. Your own welfare, and that of your husband and daughter, by necessity, remain your highest priority .... and sometimes that means making space for ourselves in the middle of those relationships, as I have had to, in the interests of self-preservation.

Hugs and hugs @Former-Member ..... wishing you gentle healing, always ..... 💜💐💕

Hello my lovely @Faith-and-Hope

Your post was beautifully said and made a lot of sense to me. Thank you for the time and thought you put into writing it as this meant a great deal to me. You certainly are correct about the complex issues I face and write about sometimes which I could well imagine may send peoples head in a spin and be too foreign for them to relate to - a lot of the reason I felt it better to end this thread. But you have given me much to ponder on and think about. Thank you.

I love how we can talk so openly and honestly with each other here and it's always such a delight to do so with you. I may pop back onto this thread occasionally to post an update, and will then judge by the reaction and interactive posts I receive back as to whether it will be of benefit to keep my thread going or not. Time will tell but I will give it one last shot. 😊

Meant to ask you my dear friend - are you interested in joining the writing group that I will get up and running soon? Would really love you to be a part of it 😊🙏xx

@Former-Member, thank you .... I would dearly love to be part of the writing thread, but at this point in time it appears that I may be entering the most critical and draining time I have experienced to date with my home circumstances .... a turning point that we need and is long overdue .... but one that will be extremely difficult as well.

I am managing what is before me as best I can, and now we have been given reading material by my S2's pdoc as well, so at this point I can only hope to have a look at the writing thread, and perhaps contribute on the odd occasion, without spreading myself too emotionally thin. I have to hold some reserves to be able to cope with the stress loading that will come with these changing events.

It is important that I dont write about them at this time. I will when I can.

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Wonderful that you want to take part my friend. Contributing on the odd occasion is fine @Faith-and-Hope - I will write up a rotating schedule of When it's a person's turn to write; each writing as little or as much as they are able, having 1 to two weeks to complete it. If something goes wrong when it comes to their turn to right they just simply post "pass" until their time comes around again. I will write this all up with proper introductory instructions when I set up the group - which won't be for at least few weeks anyway.

Moving is very stressful indeed and it is wise not to spread yourself too emotionally thin. What you are able to give is more than enough. Keep us updated to how move goes as I will be thinking about you xx

Thank you @Former-Member .... 💜

On Melbourne time at the moment, so best I go back to sleep now .... just finishing a chamomile tea to settle my stomach.

Goodnight .... 😴💕

Good morning @Former-Member Lets talk..... For one you never, repeat never held me back from other friends here. I came here of my own free will and choice and whether you believe this or not, I enjoyed it. We have a special connection my friend, one I hold closely and treasure. I did feel I blocked your other friends, but it was never my intention to do that I just enjoyed the conversations, truly I did. I don't say what I don't mean, I would prefer to remain silent. You have a sensitive spirit, I do also, and you have a deeply caring heart. What I do feel I did wrong was hijack your thread the other day, for that I'm truly sorry. I know you have so much going on in your life, deep pain and suffering. When I say you gave me a voice, no exaggerations there. You see @Former-Member posting is hard for me, always afraid of rejection and saying the wrong things etc etc, here I overcame that, because you welcomed me with open arms, which seems to come naturally to you. Always here to listen, laugh, cry, and share whatever. Speaking of which, I have things in the garden needing a pic if you are up to a photo shooting later. Just let me know what is ok for you, I respect that. Take care dear friend.

Lovely to see a post from you @Maggie. And I would love to see a pic of your beautiful garden. I am just having to attend to hubby for now but will be back online shortly to write a longer post . A cuppa may be essential 😅 xxxx 🤗

Hi @Maggie@Former-Member@Faith-and-Hope

Faith - I am not sure where you main thread is now but I have noticed that things seem to be coming to a head in your part of the world and this must be a mixed blessing - and I hope D3 and S2 get the help they need and that WH finds his "disorder" is far from helpful

And OTE - I am not reading as much of the forum atm myself - I stopped getting notifications and really just read the forum - bits of it - on my phone and post what's right in front of my nose so yes - I understand that writing a long post and having it either ignored or not seen is disheartening - I am sorry for what I have missed because you write really well

And Maggie - I have enjoyed your posts as well - always glad to see you -

So it seems the Forum is getting larger and larger - it is (I'm sure) not intended to become a burden for anyone - I was spending a lot of time here each day and I do miss that but it really is here for us to support others - yes - but to have support ourselves - so imo it's a good idea to keep to a few people and be as honest and open as we can without making ourselves vulnerable

I am so glad I found this forum and so glad I found all of you as well - including people I have not included

All the best girls and yes - coffee - it seemed my coffee was better this morning - the best I have had for ages - must have been made by someone else

Dec

A warm hello to our dear @Owlunar also. Always a pleasure to read a post from you. I totally understand the impossibility of partaking in all threads - I find the same. I like to keep to a few also, - I especially like to be available for new members so they don't feel alone at the outset. Nothing worse than gaining the courage to reach out in a distressed state on Sane expressing ones innermost pain, only to have it hanging out there in cyber space largely ignored. That could end badly.

So apart from being on this thread I usually gravitate to those who are yet to establish a firm bond with support persons on Sane initially. It's terribly important to me that others don't feel alone. I always love to receive a post from you and read how you are going. How are you feeling now by the way?

@Faith-and-Hope - your intercession on here the last couple of days has been nothing short of amazing. Considering the stress you are personally under, your clarification and compassionate diplomacy in healing the situation on this thread was outstanding. I am in total awe and admiration of you and I never say anything I don't mean. You are a peace maker - purpose does not get much higher than that. Thank you - you do an amazing job as a community guide and beyond as a valued friend xxx❤️

I will send this first post before I lose it - warm that coffee up @Maggie as your post is in the making. And you know me - I never do anything by halves lol ❤️