Caring for a wife with Borderline Personality Disorder- Sequel to Diary of wife’s hospital stay - holding it together for our family.

@soul she is actually happy to talk to our pastor. I was supprised that she agreed when he told her to come see him even though she has stated to me she can't see how he can help. I think having someone notice and care has spoken volumes to her. As soon as he saw her on Saturday he told her she needed to come see him (in a caring respectful way). She certinally does respect him and I think will listen to him.

He is someone either of us can call at any time in a crisis. I would have caled on Friday but he had been away and I didnt realise he was back.

Thanks for the tag @Determined. Re: boundaries - yes as harsh as they may seem unfortunately it has to be said and done so she is aware. You are put in such a difficult situation and need make right call for you, her and your family. Am glad she has settled and is open to talk to the pastor.

Things are not good at the moment,
I am waiting for a call back from the pdoc for advice but not leaving my darling alone.
We had a big meltdown last night and it has been all down hill from there.

I thought the meeting with our pastor went well yesterday, not that it was going ot magically solve anything but it reinforced that there are people all around her who care.

😢 @Determined. Hoping for you that things get better.

I guess it's for the best @Determined. Don't feel bad. That is why you had boundaries put in place. Just a bummer that they had to be enacted. I hope it goes well with explaining the situation to S2.

Thinking of you.

I am pretty close to snapping myself at the moment
It is impossible to do anything for myself. I was supposed to be working tomorrow but that is a bit hard when my darling can not be left alone. Mil can't come and stay as it is their shopping day and getting them to change their routine would be like reversing the rotation of the earth. I cant ask my mum because the sister would want to be involved and to say no would create a whole world of bother that I just don't need at the moment.

Still trying to get hold of MIL to see if she will come over this afternoon so I can go to uni.

Sorry for the rant,
I am just so angry with the situation (not my darling) at the moment. feeling so controlled and restricted.
Have already been stressed trying to work out when and how we can get S2 to see a councillor which is out of town with minimal disruption to his schooling.

A horrible situation @Determined. Reach out for help. If only we, your Forum friends, could assist. We would be there in a flash. You must be beside yourself with anxiety.

Breathe slowly, concentrate on calming your body. You will get through this. I really hope MiL can help out.