Need advice re daughter's MI

@Former-Member

I'm sorry you have to go through this, and I hear your despair.

I would say to you, it's her life, her journey, sometimes people with MI want to be locked up for a little while....even a jailterm if necessary. Your daughter is not coping with everyday life, and is self medicating to stop the hurt.

In the meantime, keep breathing and meditate, it's about you staying strong and just be there for when she asks for your help and advice.

Thinking of you,

xx

Thank you @Grasshopper3 It is a despairing situation. I should be well and truly detached from it by now. Most would of put her out but I just can't make her homeless. Some say that is what it will take for her to gain the motivation to help herself. But what if she hurts herself? This is so hard for me to watch. Your post does make sense to me though. I do t think she is too worried about going to jail. For me that would be like facing hell head on.

I don't know what it will take for her to seek proper help. No, she isn't coping with life. The part that is hard for me to understand is that she had every opportunity and the love to have a good one. Being a survivor of childhood abuse myself I just don't understand why she doesn't want help. Why she doesn't appreciate her parents as I would of given anything to have that love. I know we aren't enough for her and that's okay - I wish someone would come along and care about her, someone she will listen to that has her well being at heart. Wishful thinking I know but probably typical for a mother. I just want her to be happy, okay. I don't need her to love me.

She just goes to the users and abusers and keeps allowing it. And I don't understand. I would of had enough and rather be alone. Thank you for your compassion. Hugs xxx

Hi @Former-Member

How have you been going? Hope life has been treating you and hubby well. Thanks for the link - I will have a look xx

Hi @Former-Member,

Have you considered getting an accountant to sort out your daughter's tax? ATO give accountants more time to submit returns, for example, and they can negotiate. Alternatively, you could ask a community legal service for advice.

I understand the comment that it's her life etc. My experience (with a different MI) is that the hole just gets deeper and there's no one else to help dig them out. There's probably an "in between" balanced option but I haven't managed to find it yet.

Thank you @patientpatient - I am currently seeking to act on your advice with an accountant and community legal advice (I actually work for the community centre), re my daughter's tax situation. Hopefully it's not too late.

Thank you @Former-Member for asking after me as this week I have been struggling. Seeing my daughter like this has retriggered grief and depression has been beginning to rear it's head with me now. But there is good news. Daughter went to her GP to go back on bi-polar medication. She is trying to stay away from self medicating on drugs now admitting she was off the rails. She went back to the gym and is talking respectively to us again. This has only just occurred and she isn't out of the woods yet. We are all hoping she can keep doing this. We are supporting her efforts and she knows we are please she is acting more positively. She is trying. So a corner has turned, we just have to pray against a relapse time will tell.

I do hope she manages to make a better circle of friends - when she declared giving up drugs they were offering them her for free. They truly want to see her go down. At least so far she has rejected these offers. She needs one or two real friends who respect her and won't hurt her. If I could have one wish these people will fall into her path. She is deep down a caring loyal person to friends nad serves better than be used and abused all the time because she is mentally weak.

Hi @Former-Member

Just wanted to touch base and see how things are for you. Trust things have continued to improve for you and your family.