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That's great @outlander

I am taking my cat to the vet this afternoon but I will be reading my phone to see how you are - and I will be thinking of you the whole time

I'm glad you are seeing your GP and that you will be telling her what's going on - this will be a time to let out some of the tension before you start

But stick to the plan with your mother - I think looking after the kids and having so much responibility is the hardest part - it seems to be - so to control the conversation with your mother stick to the one point - and stay with the one idea and return to I FEEL because that is something she is so wrong about

I really care about this Outlander

Dec

Hi again @outlander

The bf has got it coming - and he is a nothing - a big verbal bully - I could use bad language but my English will serve -

Anger has served me Outlander - I have not had an easy life and yet I have survived it so aggression does have it's place - so about anger

If we have anger and push it down then it turns into depression and makes us sick - and you have been very sick during the last few weeks and worse that very sick in the last few days since you saw your therapist and let it go - and cried so much I am sure you thought you would never stop

So - growling at the bf - good - it let some of the anger out because that anger is in the way of your talking to your mother calmly and making your point without getting angry

So - if anger is necessary - then anger is what it is - your emotions at the situation you have been forced into

So most parents work weekends do they? Amazing - I know I did - at times - as did my ex-h - and my father - but both the bosses in your household working all weekend and leaving the minor children in your care - that's just their easy way out

That's not your problem - none of what goes on with the other members is not your problem

Your problem is to find your way out of being the victim in all of this

And I will keep telling you because it's important that your remember - you are the victim here - not the cause of all the crap - and you deserve better - much better - than you have been getting

Dec

@outlander

Hi hun,

I know you are going through a really hard time and my heart goes out to you. I have said this before but you DO NOT need to say you are sorry. This is a place where you should be able to get out what you need to. It is a safe place for you. We all understand in one way or another and I myself would rather you blurt it out on here, say what you need to say, instead of keeping it bottled up inside of you.

I hope you can talk to your mum this afternoon. I know it won't be easy for you but you have all of us here for support and hugs and to help you.

Take care hun

Nell