outlanderSenior Contributor
when is it time for hospital
when do you find its time to go to hospital?
im debating whether its the right move for me
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when is it time for hospital
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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@outlander @Former-Member you haven't destroyed everything my sweet. You aren't coping & there is no shame in that at all. It must have been hard to ring your mother, but that's an extremely courageous thing to do. You're being way, way too hard on yourself darling. Please be a little kinder to yourself. You are but 20years old, with physical and mental illness, being responsible for so many things. Who is taking care of you? No one. Just look at the posts above how much you are cared about how much love there is for you. Please, don't be hard on yourself, today of all days. Hugs
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Unknown userMember
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What happened @outlander if you fell over and broke your leg. Someone would have to come and look after the girls whilst you went to hospital.Well think of you like a broken leg!!! If that makes sense at all😀💗
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And @Sans911 is right @outlander. We are here because we care about you and want what is best for you whatever it is that you decide to do. We are all here for you❤️
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Im destroying everything. Im.not trying hard enough. I feel like im upsetting and letting you guys here down too. Yes i rang mum. I cant get hold of the other family member yet. I just need respite for a few hrs at least to get though the day tomorrow
Im such a dissapointment. I dont know what else i can do to show im trying. I dont mean to upset anyone.
Im such a dissapointment. I dont know what else i can do to show im trying. I dont mean to upset anyone.
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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@outlander - what makes you think you're upsetting people? Is that myself, Nell, or family? Honestly, if you're not coping, your family or someone needs to step in. For everyone's safety and well being. You HAVE tried. This was a terrible time for your mother to go away, but she did it anyway, without much thought for how you might manage, especially with the recent diagnosis you have received. Stop apologising @outlander. You've done nothing wrong at all.
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@outlander Please please please believe me when I say you are not upsetting anyone here and in no way are you letting any of us down. You are doing an amazing job in a really crappy situation that you did not ask for. And this is NOT YOUR FAULT.
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OwlunarSenior Contributor
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You are not upsetting us @outlander
You have been badly let down by the person who should care for you most - and we are here and some of us are mothers who care a lot by the extreme circumstances you are in
So it might seem as if we are trying to make you do something but only because we can see more from the outside - and we care
But you have to make up your own mind and make your own decisions - that's most important
You have been trying hard and we know this - you have nothing to apologise about - nothing at all
Dec
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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I dont know @Sans911 everyone. I just feel like im not trying hard enough. This diagnosis only came after she had left. No one knew until the day i knew about this. They know about the cancer. I cant do much else until friday anyway. @Former-Member i know you guys arent blaming me or anthing. I just feel like the biggest failure. I really do. .@dec
How can i be such a screw up at 20. I dont understand. The pain im feeling now radiating from these sutures are annoying me and also telling me i shouldn't have done thoae things yesterday.
Im still trying to get hold of the family member. She only has a house number so if shes out then cant answer it.
I just feel so bloody useless and pathetic and hurting everyone i love including you guys on here
How can i be such a screw up at 20. I dont understand. The pain im feeling now radiating from these sutures are annoying me and also telling me i shouldn't have done thoae things yesterday.
Im still trying to get hold of the family member. She only has a house number so if shes out then cant answer it.
I just feel so bloody useless and pathetic and hurting everyone i love including you guys on here
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OwlunarSenior Contributor
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You feel like a failure @outlander
But you are not - you were charged to deal with more than you could possibly have managed - there is not failure when you did your best and it was not enough
It would have been too much for many people - esp when they are only 20
Dec
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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@outlander Honey, you're not hurting anyone but yourself. And you're definitely not a screw up. Your mind and emotions might be a little screwed up (sorry, attempting a little bit of humour here) but no of that is your fault. I think you are probably like me, and have ridiculously high expectations of yourself and what you should be doing. You know I'm 47yo don't you @outlander. I'm still learning to bring those expectations down a peg or three. Because I'm ruining my life trying to be everything to everyone and not living a life for me. You have a HUGE head start. And you will be ok. Because you're smart, determined and focused. You won't be in the situation you're in now forever. You won't. There is a life worth living with your name on it. I know it.
