outlanderSenior Contributor
when is it time for hospital
when do you find its time to go to hospital?
im debating whether its the right move for me
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when is it time for hospital
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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@Former-Member my sisters already think the same and so does my mum. Theres been a few times where my middle sister said im nearly old enough to get a job and ive offerred to help.
And every time mum and her and mum bf start talking they always turn it back on me. And say you cant sit around the house like your sister does or my sister will talk about a job and ill say well if you want a job ill help write a resume cause you can't not work. You need an income as well and she alwats says why you sit around all day and dont work.
They always turn it back on me. I dont know why it hit a nerve last night. Ive always known how they feel. They think im lazy and don't work. They hate me. They are embarrassed of me and it got even worse when i said i needed help and then it got even worse when i went to hospital.
When i got out i saw half the crap my mother was putting on fb. She never specified hospital though. More along the guilt trip things and attention serking pity things. Advertising for thing like 'a new babysitter' things like those stupid name tests and when it comes up with my nan she would tag everyone involved but me and when it comes up partner in crime and it comes up me she write 'uh huh' yet with my sisters or her bf its a big awesome write up.
These little things i know shouldn't matter but all these little things add up and they sting.
And the one thing i thought i was doing ok at was educating her horse and now she wants to get other people to train her. Kids mind you. Theres a gurl we know whos a rough nut and mum wants her to ride her. That stings because i thought i was going ok with her but i cant even do thst right 😞
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And every time mum and her and mum bf start talking they always turn it back on me. And say you cant sit around the house like your sister does or my sister will talk about a job and ill say well if you want a job ill help write a resume cause you can't not work. You need an income as well and she alwats says why you sit around all day and dont work.
They always turn it back on me. I dont know why it hit a nerve last night. Ive always known how they feel. They think im lazy and don't work. They hate me. They are embarrassed of me and it got even worse when i said i needed help and then it got even worse when i went to hospital.
When i got out i saw half the crap my mother was putting on fb. She never specified hospital though. More along the guilt trip things and attention serking pity things. Advertising for thing like 'a new babysitter' things like those stupid name tests and when it comes up with my nan she would tag everyone involved but me and when it comes up partner in crime and it comes up me she write 'uh huh' yet with my sisters or her bf its a big awesome write up.
These little things i know shouldn't matter but all these little things add up and they sting.
And the one thing i thought i was doing ok at was educating her horse and now she wants to get other people to train her. Kids mind you. Theres a gurl we know whos a rough nut and mum wants her to ride her. That stings because i thought i was going ok with her but i cant even do thst right 😞
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Unknown userMember
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@outlander,if you said this on Saturday,when you wanted advice,I would've said go for the Housesitting.What a pack of b******.I look after my mother but in a argument the other day I brought up how my niece's have no respect for me due to her attitude when they were kids towards me.They learned that and I have had to forget about them because of the lack of respect.I googled my name a few months ago for instance and there was a conversation about me from a post between my sister and my niece from Facebook!I was fuming it was about a personal matter.I had to msg them both to delete it.Putting that on public Facebook was totally inappropriate and very disrespectful to me.
Just hang in there @outlander,no wonder your friends can see the family situation.Just try and stand back and look at it for what it is.You have the same problems as me and a lot,you are screwed up from a dysfunctional family.💕
Try and enjoy something today even if it's for a short time.
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@outlander,if you said this on Saturday,when you wanted advice,I would've said go for the Housesitting.What a pack of b******.I look after my mother but in a argument the other day I brought up how my niece's have no respect for me due to her attitude when they were kids towards me.They learned that and I have had to forget about them because of the lack of respect.I googled my name a few months ago for instance and there was a conversation about me from a post between my sister and my niece from Facebook!I was fuming it was about a personal matter.I had to msg them both to delete it.Putting that on public Facebook was totally inappropriate and very disrespectful to me.
Just hang in there @outlander,no wonder your friends can see the family situation.Just try and stand back and look at it for what it is.You have the same problems as me and a lot,you are screwed up from a dysfunctional family.💕
Try and enjoy something today even if it's for a short time.They aren't worth it.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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If this had of happened on saturday i wouldve said yes but now arrangements have already been made and its all set @Former-Member
I feel like shite and wondering what the point is. Of anything anymore.
Ill see if i have energy to draw something today but ive got chores and work to do though so that comes first and studying
I feel like shite and wondering what the point is. Of anything anymore.
Ill see if i have energy to draw something today but ive got chores and work to do though so that comes first and studying
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Unknown userMember
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Just try and put it all in a box in your mind @outlander,or preferably in a dog kennel where I would like to put your mother's bf.!
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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I cant @Former-Member
Its swirling around my head like a bad record but i cant change it.
Its swirling around my head like a bad record but i cant change it.
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Unknown userMember
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I know @outlander, because you are f***** me all over!Let it eat away at you ,and you will wake up one day like me with the lights out in your mind leaving you in darkness.As I said the b****** aren't worth it.
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MDTSenior Contributor
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Hey @outlander
Firstly thank you for sharing all that stuff. I had no idea how bad the situation was for you at home. It's rough. Sounds like there is a lot of crap and people are playing games.
Although I haven't got a bad situation at home I havs defs put up with people's s*** over the years. This includes close friends who backchatabout my mental health and people who avoid me. Also peopls who simply dont get it and people who try to drag me back into church (shudders)
I am telling you this to let you know that there are still good people in this world. Some of them are on here and they offer help to you.
I guess I would also remind you that your self worth should not be conditional on what others say or do to you. Your self worth is grounded in the reality that you are a living, breathing human being.
I know it's easy to forget this (i do often) and also when you are surrounded by people who seemingly have a disdain for your very existence.
But you MUST know that you are not alone in this and @Former-Member has shared some stuff with you too. Hopefully this also helps.
And to both of you, i think its totally shithouse that guys do this to girls.. they aren't men. I just want to say this because i feel ashamed that they are members of my gender..
In the end though i can see that both of you are very strong and it gives me hope in my own journey too.
Please keep sharing @outlander because you can do this!
Hope what i have said has helped in some ways..
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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what do you do when you cant go home?
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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@Former-Member no matter how hard i try it always gets to me even though i say it wont and it doesnt matter but it does matter. they are suppose to be my family not my bosses
